amen big bro.
Many times when people say "all I need is Jesus" and "I don't need a man, God is my husband" so on and so forth....I really wonder what is really going on inside of them. Because most want companionship - not saying that they are not content in the state they are in - and to make such a statement when God actually feels otherwise makes me go hmmmmmm. This is what I was going to say but just not in that way.
So, it is it safe to say that, there are something’s that God won’t be for you? So all the people who say..."I’m satisfied with Jesus" really don’t have the fulfillment the way God planned? I think people get out of balance here when they say that. Your state of being 'satisfied' depends on many things for instance when a divorcee says to me : i am satisfied with Jesus i probably understand that he/she has been to hell and back over the break up of a relationship and so at present find singleness to be bliss as opposed to being with someone.
For me the key is :being satisfied.
When I say i am satisfied as a single i dont mean i am on this spiritual high where God and i are in deep conversation and angels are feeding me spoonfuls of manna to the tune where i cant even hear the buzzard outside my window
I dont even believe that is God's intention for us -i believe God created us as tripartite beings and all those need to be touched in one way or the other.
I believe that God has not made it so that we derive ALL fulfilment from Him even though He is our portion.
I believe He has made it so so that we derive a lot of pleasure from meeting goals, hobbies, relationships, travel or whatever is of interest to us.
What i actually find scary are the people who are born again and feel they dont need to have any interests but church/ministry i find such people tedious and unhealthy and unstable because God put us on this earth for a reason-get a life before u die.
Also our need for companionship also has to do with our personality types-many people dont wanna have relationships because they are scared and emotionaly scarred so they hide under the cover of : Jesus and I on the mountain. That is a subtle plan of the enemy.
However some people like myself are naturally loners.
I get immense satisfaction from nature, art than i get from human beings. I have been that way since i was born it is not that at some point someone made me mad and so i retired from the world. I dont understand why people have to talk all the time
and i find that being around people all the time interferes with my thought process and creativity. To put it simply i dont have and have never had a craving for companionship the way many people do-to me that does not make me better or worse it just means that maybe God has a purpose or a talent for me which requires me to be the way i am.
So when i say to someone that i am satisfied i mean that i have a spiritual life and a real life on this earth ie i have friendships,hobbies etc jobs that make me happy.
I cannot help the fact that i dont have a huge immense gap in my life that a man or a person would have to fill-i dont know maybe it has to do with the fact that i come from a very loving family and have had good solid friends for all of my life -who knows?
What would be wrong is if i walk around expecting everyone to be like me or vice versa.
We are all different-my 2 best friends have been trying to get married since i met them -i support them wholeheartedly and they also respect the fact that i am not like them. Take away my job and my goals though and i am a nervous wreck- we are just differet.
I do have many people trying to convince me that i have a succubus husband lol or that there is something wrong with me and that is what is irritating.
Loneliness for everyone is different. We all have needs and we need to respect each other and not lay the law down for others based on our experience.
I am not saying i am against marriage or companionship i just wanted to bring a different perspective.
As a christian i encourage people to try and get married when they can and not be under some religious 'wait' imposed by church leaders and miserable married couples who have done it wrong.
Their experience may be a wealth of knowledge but not one by which you should live.
Also the ones who are wrongly misguided that God has some Reinhard Bonke ministry for them and so leave what is natural and human till they are about to clock 50 and there is still no ministry in sight.
The long and short of it is stop making it so complicated.
God prepared Eve for Adam and brought them in union without much of a fuss. Times have changed but does it really need to get as deep as we have made it?
and i find that being around people all the time interferes with my thought process and creativity. To put it simply i dont have and have never had a craving for companionship the way many people do-to me that does not make me better or worse it just means that maybe God has a purpose or a talent for me which requires me to be the way i am.