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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jun 18, 2008 7:02:06 GMT -5
The problem is that some single women, instead of caring for the things of the Lord, they are already caring for a husband that is not there yet. I am in no way saying that if one desires to be married that they should not seek the Lord and find His will in the matter, but what I am saying is that should not be our every prayer, our every journal entry and our every thought. Agreed. It's one thing for your future husband to be one of , your prayer requests, but not the only one. It's one thing for your future marraige to be one of the things you are seeking a closer relationship to God for, even the number one, but not the only one. Wow, the Lord just spoke to me while typing this and said NO, THE NUMBER ONE REASON TO SEEK ME IS TO FIND ME. WOW. Even God is saying don't let a "blessing" no matter what the blessing be the number one reason you're seeking to draw closer to God. You know what, GAP, One reason why I don't attend singles conferences because the one's that I did attend or viewed a video of - did not speak in this fasion. They only spoke of how to become a wife, how to prepare for a husband, 12 steps for this and 12 steps for that. NONE of them spoke about being single and how to walk in the fulness of that FIRST! Okay, again I am just thinking of things here and there - hope I am not taking away from your thread. No you are not taking away from, rather you are "adding thou to it" and I thank you. Like you, I too noticed that when I first began attending singles conferences and workshops in the early and mid 90's. When I was asked in the late 90's to teach and facilitate, I immediately sought God for lessons and messages for singles that were not centered around a mate. PURPOSE is what he gave me as a focus was for singles and PURPOSE AND PARENTING for the single parent workshops. Another reason why people are so focused on husbands/marriages etc. is because they have no idea what they are called to do, they don't know what their spiritual gifts are. As Giants would say BINGO! So, if there are silent singles reading this thread saying, well, I really don't know either, I want to address that cause one thing I hate is when preachers and teachers tell me what's wrong but not how to fix it. Don't just tell me the what TELL ME THE HOW!!! I'll be back to share more later. Andsuch, keep sharing! |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Jun 18, 2008 9:17:36 GMT -5
IMO, once you find your kingdom purpose, you may also discover that what you desire in a mate may no longer be the case - or it will become more defined.
Be back to add more.................
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Post by vindicated on Jun 18, 2008 9:31:06 GMT -5
I am in no way saying that if one desires to be married that they should not seek the Lord and find His will in the matter, but what I am saying is that should not be our every prayer, our every journal entry and our every thought. Girl that was ME! Thank God I can say WAS. And since I've stopped that I feel so much better. The heartache that just lived inside me is gone. And I have since realized too that I can't look at certain things right now. There a few pictures that I would look at....don't look at them no more. (not porn, just people) I had one webpage bookmarked of a guy I used to love so much. I removed the bookmark. I even found that it's best to turn away from some shows/movies during this season, and Lord knows I'm a sucker for a love story! It stirs emotions that shouldn't be stirred (and I'm not talking about sexual ones either). I'm talking about those lonely ones, the achy ones. All of this helps to keep you from running to God with it every day. Filling your journal up with it every day or every other day. I feel so much better. Now when I do talk to God about my husband I'm mainly just saying that I submit to His will, His timing, His purpose, His call on my life and I TRUST HIM and His love for me and His plan for me. AndSuch, You said somethinig else that was key too because the Lord had to keep telling me for a while to stop putting my life on hold thinking that I'll miss my husband if I go too far. A while back I was thinking about the money I need to put in the house for some upgrades and I was thinking I didn't want to put more in it than I could get out of it. Cause when my husband comes I know I'll be moving and selling the house and it's small. The Lord said to me, "Just do what you need to do for your house and stop worrying about what's going to happen. You always do that. You put your life on hold because you're worried about what might happen." GAP I think He was saying, JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE! And it's so sad that we do that. We just freeze, afraid that if we move too far or too fast that somehow we'll miss what God has for us. But the way to get to it is to KEEP MOVING FORWARD and you'll wind up moving right to it, face to face, eye to eye with everything God promised. |
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Post by hzfvr4me on Jun 18, 2008 10:59:32 GMT -5
Hi everyone I am a "lurker", I never post but I just had to comment on this topic...first thanks to everyone for their comments..I am actually speaking at a womens conference Friday for a session called single whole and holy! Some of what was posted up here just confirms the direction that the Lord is taking me in for this conference. I think that single women miss the importance of where we are in life-someone posted earlier about 1 Corinthians 7:34-God has called the single women to be care about the things of God-to me that is awesome, we often miss the importance of that-where some may feel inferior to those who are married, but God is saying we have a special assignment to care about the things of Him-how big is that! I for one want to be focused on my purpose and being in an intimate relationship with God....not obsessing over being married all the time. I have two friends going through situations where they both know whom the Lord has for them, but now the focus is on when Lord, when, instead of really running after God and fulfilling what He desires for them to do at this season. I could go on and on but I just wanted to say thanks GAP for this post, it just confirmed somethings and pushes me further along to really seek out doing what God has me to do at this stage in my life...to God be the glory He gives you what you need in ways or places that you wouldnt even think to look in  Be blessed everyone |
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jun 18, 2008 11:02:24 GMT -5
Hi everyone I am a "lurker", I never post but I just had to comment on this topic...first thanks to everyone for their comments..I am actually speaking at a womens conference Friday for a session called single whole and holy! Some of what was posted up here just confirms the direction that the Lord is taking me in for this conference. ....it just confirmed somethings and pushes me further along to really seek out doing what God has me to do at this stage in my life...to God be the glory He gives you what you need in ways or places that you wouldnt even think to look in Be blessed everyone Welcome, hzfvr4me, and thanks for moving from lurking to posting. smile. I am so glad you are standing in agreement on this topic and also that you found confirmation for your upcoming conference. I love that theme, Single Whole and Holy. It reminds me of Colassians 2:10 but ye are COMPLETE in Him. Keep on sharing, if God gives you anything else for this topic, please bless us, and see you on the boards! And it's so sad that we do that. We just freeze, afraid that if we move too far or too fast that somehow we'll miss what God has for us. But the way to get to it is to KEEP MOVING FORWARD and you'll wind up moving right to it, face to face, eye to eye with everything God promised. Amen, Vin!!! But doesn't the word say that God has not given us the spirit of FEAR but of love, PEACE and a SOUND mind. I told somebody one time who was afraid of the seemingly men shortage in the body of Christ "well, I only need 1, and I'm believing God for 'the 1' !!!!" LOL Remember when Elijah thought there was no one left God told him "I've got 7000 that have not bowed!!!!" Just because we can't see them doesn't mean they're not around!!! Come on people, keep sharing and ministering!!!! |
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Post by stillfocused on Jun 18, 2008 12:12:10 GMT -5
Hi Guys..
I must make this quick..I just wanted to say that I agree that when our focus is no longer on being married and asking the question "Is he the one?" our focus changes to truly the purpose of being single and married. I personally found out that when I stopped whining about not being married..that I found that somehow eluded me when I was sitting around with all crazy thoughts going through my mind. I cherish the time that I spent with the Lord..even though I am over 45..I fully understand that must delight myself in the Lord. It's about his plans and purposes..and not my own. My live is no longer on hold waiting..yet, I am enjoying my life...and loving this time of singleness..even though I do desire to marry one day..to the person who started this post..thank you !!
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Post by hzfvr4me on Jun 18, 2008 12:13:03 GMT -5
thanks GAP youre killing me and I will tell you why, my subtopic was "I am complete" but I didnt know where the scripture was thanks again for !--maybe you should come and do this seminar for me!!lol
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jun 18, 2008 12:20:27 GMT -5
thanks GAP youre killing me and I will tell you why, my subtopic was "I am complete" but I didnt know where the scripture was thanks again for !--maybe you should come and do this seminar for me!!lol WOW, see how God is blessing - and btw, I'm teaching a workshop to the young adults (18-25) at a women's weekend in august. we just had our planning session this past weekend. saturday i settled on the topic Young Adult Women of God: Healthy, Happy, and Holy - Yes We Can! Phil 4:18 (the overall theme is yes we can, and i had NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with that!) LOL!! |
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Post by stillfocused on Jun 18, 2008 14:18:26 GMT -5
Ladies, that is so awesome !! God is letting us know that we are whole in Him and it now time for us to shout if from the rooftops that in HIM we are complete.
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Post by kitty on Jun 19, 2008 12:02:30 GMT -5
Hello Guys,
What are my spiritual gifts? And what has God called me to do? Well right now I can say that God calls me to take a stand within my calling of my career in the medical field. There is a lot of underhanded things that go on... Just by the simply fact that our health care system is under attack. Although people may not see it as something demonic and evil it really is...
It wasn't until about 3 years agao that I realized that working in this field isn't just a job but a calling. My former Pastor who has since gone on to be with the Lord broke it down for me... He said, "When you go into the hospital you may not realize it but you will be going on the front line... You are dealing with people that are battling for their very lives. There is a lot that your are going to see and face... You may see a lot of evil. You need to be constantly prayed up."
You know what guys... He was right. So right now... I need to pray to God for how He may use me to interceed for may patients... to protect them from harm, whether it be from family members or an incorrect system. Maybe it is witnessing to someone as they call out to God in their critical hour...
As far as spiritual gifts i did ask God for the gift to be able to lay hands and heal...
Kitty
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Sept 7, 2008 13:52:36 GMT -5
BUMP
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Sept 8, 2008 7:51:35 GMT -5
Thanks Andsuch for bumping this.
Update:
The workshop was a success, but during the early part of Aug, God actually changed the topic somewhat. I settled on IMAGINE ME: Being What God Created Me To Be. It was an interactive workshop with music, art, poetry scripture and testimony.
The point was we have so much in us, hurts from the past, baggage, issues, that are keeping us from being the women God is calling us to be, that sometimes all we do is imagine we're where God wants us to be, we imagine one day we'll get there, but right now we're stuck on imagine.
The women who attended were actuall 25-35, and really opened up and shared what family hurts, relationship residue, secrets, skeletons and self sabotage were keeping them from being the women God created them to be.
The scary part was me putting page in the handout with 8 questions on it that really really dug deep. I kept saying even if you care not to share, you need to answer these questions for yourself. Answer them fully, and take them before the Lord for deliverance. I left 20 and 30 minute breaks just for them to write, while particular songs of worship and deliverance played in the background.
1.What do you think about yourself when you look in the mirror?
2.What is your number one insecurity?
3.What is the most painful part of your past?
4.What thoughts do you constantly find yourself saying no to?
5.What is the worst hurtful thing someone has ever said to or about you that to this day still hurts you?
6.What is the worst hurtful thing someone has ever done to you that to this day still hurts you?
7.Do people try to break you down? How?
8.What are you most afraid of?
When they actually started sharing their answers I was amazed. I learned that people really do want to be free. All they are waiting for is someone to help dig them out. Gloray! I'm a grave digger. Gloray!!!!
The second day we talked about HOW do we really LET GO AND LET GOD? WHAT IS FORGIVENESS and HOW DO I REALLY FORGIVE? It was beautiful and as I shared and taught, I learned as well. God really blessed.
After teaching on letting go, letting God and forgiveness, the last question was handed out and completed:
9.Review each question and your answer and then complete write your own song/poem/story: “I imagine me…………
Again, 20 - 30 minutes was given with particular worship music playing in the background while they worked on their answers. And then they shared. I was in tears, it was beautiful. I praise God again and again for giving me the boldness to "go there" and not to stay in what subject I was comfortable in. Before we can move to PURPOSE, we have to be PURGED from our PAST and PRUNED from our PAIN.
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Sept 8, 2008 17:44:20 GMT -5
ABSOLUTELY AWESOME!
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Be blessed everyone