What would you do.....

[Nikkol]

if your son or daughter told you that they were gay/lesbian/bi? I know some would say "i would never have to deal with that" but in actuality, we may never know.

And if your child was dealing with that, would they feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it?

Would you rather them be sneaky about it?

What should our reaction be?

I believe that the church isn't really (majority wise) doing a good job with addressing this issue. But what should the church do?

Should we label certain things as being "feminine" or "masculine"? Or does the amount of testosterone that a female may have or the amount of estrogen a male may have play a role but doesn't have to be indicative of certain behaviors?

[krazeeboi]

I'm not a parent, but it breaks my heart when I hear of parents throwing their kids out of the house when they come out to them. That certainly isn't the answer.

[vin]

I have no idea what I would do. Definitely would need WISDOM.

[nina2]

"if your son or daughter told you that they were gay/lesbian/bi? I know some would say "i would never have to deal with that" but in actuality, we may never know."

What would I do?... Well... the truth is that, because I know myself, and how much I love my children, I believe that the first thing that would happen is that I would lose any anointing that I might have had or thought I had, I would be just a mother, looking at MY child, listening to MY child, and nothing registering with me, only the pain rushing in and through...

I believe that there would definitely be a time that would elapse, between high tide and low tide emotionally, and psychologically, before being able to even begin to "think" about what was said and the ramifications/consequences, individually, family wise, socially, spiritually, basically before being able to grasp the full picture of what it means for "US", because that much I know, it would still be "US"...

"And if your child was dealing with that, would they feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it?"

I believe they would. It would probably be very painful for them to bring themselves to that point, of being able to actually come out with it. I believe they would because I always told my children "there is nothing that you can do that can make me stop loving you", period. And, they believe it and that's the way it has been. As they grew up, the "topics" brought up changed, of course, but the communications were always open and clear.
It does NOT mean that it was always easy and "there there we are ok"! Far from it. Again, when things like that happen, it is more than time to be real, including and especially for christian families.

"Would you rather them be sneaky about it?"

No, I would not. I would dare to say that being as close as I am to both my son and my daughter, if there had been something like that going on, I would have picked up some "clues" and actually, maybe, tried to initiate a conversation about it myself.
I would rather have them come to me, no matter what, rather than try to work their issues out there, and trying to get help from people just as ignorant as they are about it...

"What should our reaction be?"

I believe that the main and first thing to manifest in a situation like this, on both side, is a tremendous amount of pain. So, what should our reaction be?
Once that door is open, there is only one thing that can be done: walk through it, and deal with what is on the other side, no matter what it is and what it looks and sounds like. I would make sure to let my child know that we would walk through that door together, and keep walking together. And I know some are waiting to see "I would pray, etc...." and I would eventually, as always, but there is a time for everything, and I just don't see that as the first thing I would do. Too many unanswered questions and too many deep feelings to sort out...

"I believe that the church isn't really (majority wise) doing a good job with addressing this issue. But what should the church do?"

I'm not an expert, but one of the things that could be done is simply acknowledge openly that yes, their is such a thing as homosexuality, that it is and has been in the church, that times have changed, but not God's word, and that it is time to open up the lines of communications, be aware and informed, for both hetero and homosexuals. And also have some type of counseling and support available, a place for people to go and be able to talk without being judged, ostracized, where they can find hope and know the reality of what they are dealing with on all levels, including spiritually. Being homosexual does mean not being a full human being, body, mind, soul and spirit.

"Should we label certain things as being "feminine" or "masculine"? Or does the amount of testosterone that a female may have or the amount of estrogen a male may have play a role but doesn't have to be indicative of certain behaviors?"

There is definitely feminine and masculine, male and female, by divine design. Are they the same? At what point do we decide that this is it, now for sure you are this or that, gay or straight? And even then, then what? This is not about being politically correct, the truth is painful, both ways. But, it's also true that if we can't be part of the solution we are definitely part of the problem...

There is obviously a whole lot more to that topic...

That's just my two cents...

[And Such Were Some Of You]

Imo be back for dis one. On my way to the doc.

[true]

I have many gay family members , all from the same mother. Go figure!

Then I have a cousin who said she was gay after marrying and dating and sleeping with many men. She dated a woman for years. Now she is straight again dating only men. However, her daughter who hated seeing her mother date a woman is now gay herself. IDK

Now getting back to the question at hand...
You love your children regardless. That should not change for anything.
Also the entire time that Christ walked this earth he NEVER addressed the gay issue.
I think as loving parents we would talk about it make sure that the child is sure that he or she is actually gay. I have a friend who's daughter thought she was gay because she had sex for the first time and didn't like it. wow

I would rather the child be open and honest about it. We'd pray about it and move on from there.
I would let them know that Christ loves EVERYBODY. jmo

[anointedteacher]

Welcome back True... it been along time... you got to get some new shoes!!!

;D

[giantsdodie]

Oh Snap the Shoe is back

[true]

lol I changed it to a much smaller one