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Post by Nikkol on Nov 17, 2005 13:00:16 GMT -5
Many times in conversations we begin to take things to levels that are unnecessary. Not purposely but based on our passion for a certain subject. So this is an area by which we can discuss how to have discussions without letting it cause divisions that would cause "fights"..... I'll start.
1) Don't take things personal.
If someone says something you don't agree with, fine. But don't internalize it. At the same time, don't attack someone personally. The art of saying you don't agree without saying "Well if you would pick up your bible" kind of comments. Even if you type them in a response, erase all of those coments because it will just cause someone to attack.
2) Remember that this is a message board
There will be people of different faiths (maybe even religions) that will post and therefore we will probably not all agree on everything. However, as a message board, people will post.
3) Some people will post things just because they know that you (general) will respond to the "aside comment".... don't do it.
Any other lessons that you've learned, please share.
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Post by Rachel2 on Apr 3, 2006 15:10:40 GMT -5
Most important lesson of all.....
Know when to stop replying.
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Post by Jasmine on Apr 3, 2006 17:32:01 GMT -5
1. This is a board
2. This is a board.
3. This is a board
4. This is a board
and If i have learned anything else from participating on discussion boards. Your viewing and thoughts on a particular subject, does not mean you are right and everyone else is wrong. Certain things are blatantly clear in scripture and thus there should be no argument. However for the others, Come let us reason together.
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Post by krazeeboi on Apr 3, 2006 20:45:42 GMT -5
Don't assume you know what someone believes totally just because they may ascribe to one particular teaching.
Don't just QUOTE scripture, but at least attempt to INTERPRET it to support your point of view.
"In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity."
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Post by anointedteacher on Apr 8, 2006 14:45:25 GMT -5
Do Not attack a person because he/she do not agree with your denominational View or State of Mindset
Do Not Open Rebuke, Twist a person words around, or Openly lie on a person, becuase your Heart not right toward a person and God.
Do Not Delete a post or respones after you vicously attack a person, twisted words, lied and cause a person post to be taken in the wrong way.
Do Not be a hypocrite... preach Jesus and Love, but manifest another spirit (evil)
If you do not like a person, do not response to their post unless you can separate your personal feeling toward a person and place your view. Do not use it as an opportunity to attack an individual and draw other to do the same.
Do Not tell a person to sit down, because you have ungodly issues and problems... It greive the Holy Spirit and not of God.
AT
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Post by krazeeboi on Apr 8, 2006 16:24:55 GMT -5
Good points, AT
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Post by Jasmine on Apr 8, 2006 17:10:49 GMT -5
Oh yea, I remember these were some rules we had on the "other" board. And a few additions on to what AT posted.
Motive. make sure its pure
Conduct as Children of God.
Be Honest.
If you do not like somebody on this post, instead of avoiding them, seek God in prayer and ask him to remove those feelings. I think its sad that we may have a "dislike" for people on a board. You cannot dislike someone that you don't know. That is the enemy.
Lastly, Respect. Be respectful, and stop accusing the brethern (thats satans job).
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Post by auneeqsol on Aug 2, 2006 11:19:03 GMT -5
This is in regards to the heresay in the cathedral thread.....Im sort of disappointed that it was locked on basis of some not agreeing. Now If some were immature by their responses, im sure that was evaluated. Now dont get me wrong I understand when things get so heated up they need to be cooled off, but in the future let's be mindful of how we post and speak to one another, even when its an opposing view it can still be done in a mature way, because that can close up a good discussion that could have possibly ended up (eventually) on a good note. Thats just a suggestion though. I and i know even others have learned a great deal from discussing, whether we agreed or not, it causes you to dig deep.
But according to one's convictions and faith the bible still tells us to "Prove all things, and hold fast to that which is good"
Just go by that and it will keep us all in a friendly mode.
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Aug 2, 2006 11:22:29 GMT -5
FYI -
The thread was not locked "simply because some were not agreeing"
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Post by auneeqsol on Aug 2, 2006 11:24:03 GMT -5
Can you please inform me on why it was locked? Either here or in a private message whichever is best? Maybe some felt as if it wasnt going anywhere.....i dunno......  |
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 2, 2006 11:46:33 GMT -5
Hi Auneeqsol.
It wasn't locked based on the fact that some disagreed. there were 7 pages of disagreements so that wasn't it at all. I specifically asked that it be locked due to the fact that another 3 or 4 more pagings discrediting each other could have continued and occurred.
I believe that we have every right to defend our beliefs, and in defending them I should be respected. Often times, discussions can get so heated that we lose focus truly of the purpose of the post and we attack each other. That wasn't the purpose in which it was intended.
Now even when I do not agree with something, someone, I try to be careful to not take the disagreement personal. However if notice through the pages, it was being taken very personal. Which again, is ok. however we should still respect one another in our disagreements.
Lastly, my personal opinion, it needed to be locked. And I will leave that there.
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Post by livinganewlife on Aug 2, 2006 12:07:47 GMT -5
I wanted to post this yesterday but didn't get the chance. We are on a Christian BB and sometimes topics arise that will challenge our foundational beliefs.
We certainly do not have to "agree" with every topic or with every person regarding a certain issue.
However, we must keep in mind that emotions will tend to flare when our "core doctrines" are being challenged. As we hold fast to the truths we have been taught and everyone must understand that most people are connected to their beliefs physically, spiritually and emotionally.
Being connected totally to our beliefs we tend to passionately defend our beliefs physically, spiritually and emotionally.
I applaud the way those who felt as if they were being attacked handled the situation, and I can also applaud those who took a stand on what they believe as well.
My dear Sister Keita posted the following quote in the Controversy Thread and it is oh so timely:
"Controversy only leads to division and the attacking of one another among the immature.
With the mature, controversy leads to deeper seeking, the challenging of entrenched thinking that needs to be challenged, and communication, all of which can help lead us to answers."
Hopefully we can ALL learn to be more mature in our discussions, for disagreement has it's place as well.
At the least Controversy and Disagreements make us THINK and truly develop ways to STAND Firm in our beliefs!
To God Be The Glory!!!!
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 2, 2006 14:07:51 GMT -5
amen chica!
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Post by krazeeboi on Aug 2, 2006 14:19:41 GMT -5
Unfortunately, I never got the chance to "defend" myself against charges of being hostile and rude on the "Heresy in the Cathedral" thread, but to make myself clear, I wasn't getting personal nor rude. My hostility was directed towards the doctrine itself and I never descended to the point of making ad hominem attacks. I simply have no tolerance for false doctrine, so in the future I hope that people can distinguish between personal attacks and doctrinal attacks. I also didn't appreciate the claim that I was discouraging others from researching the subject for themselves. Never did I do so, and it's always the exact opposite from me: research for YOURSELF and don't take someone's claims (especially in the absence of legitimate sources) for gospel.
That is all.
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 2, 2006 19:43:50 GMT -5
Krazeeboi, I new that you didn't get a chance to defend yourself and honestly You didn't need to. But had you defended yourself, we were looking at 4 or 5 more pages, directed towards you. Now I didn't suggest anyone was getting personal, I simply stated that the post was getting personal, and people were being attacked. This is not to say that you were doing the attacking. I also dont know on who made the comment about "discouraging others" but I believe that we can all agree, that we have a mind of our own. I believe that anybody who disagreed did so because of their own foundational beliefs. I really pray that you don't feel as if my post in any sort of way was directed towards you.
it really was general post. Yet and still I believe it was personal, because I took every post personal. If it wasn't personal to me..I wouldn't have responded to the thread at all.
Now I admit, I said "lock the post already", but I hold no position of authority when it comes to actually locking these forums.
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