going to different churches and married!

[Beck]

Question is, who has experienced this and what advice would they give to a couple who attended different churches.

[And Such Were Some Of You]

I haven't experienced this because I am not married. However, my brother has. He is now divorced because his wife ended up having an affair with the deacon of the church that she was attending!

[Jasmine]

andsuchweresomeofu said:

I haven't experienced this because I am not married. However, my brother has. He is now divorced because his wife ended up having an affair with the deacon of the church that she was attending!

JESUS!!

[Jasmine]

elderbeck said:

Question is, who has experienced this and what advice would they give to a couple who attended different churches.

I have a friend who's wife left our church, and began attending another ministry. There is a pull and tug there, however I believe that as a WIFE...i should be where my husband is...no matter what.

[Beulah5]

I know quiet a few people who do this and it works for them one have been married for 30 years!!!! They are all Spirit filled and walking sincerely with the lord but they simply enjoy different styles of worship.

I see nothing wrong with it especially if none of the individuals are called to ministry or key positions in their churches.

We should not impose onto others what works for us however having said that i believe that these are discussions that shd be had b4 marriage as to whether u would attend the same church or not and knowing God's mind about it.

These people that i know who do this simply believe that the church is one which is true-u like drums i like hymns etc etc

and u know why i believe it works because during the week they spend time fellowshipping with the lord, running an interdenominational cell group in their home etc.

I believe that a lot of problems that arise around church going is because people do not understand that our personal fellowship is supposed to supercede far and beyond what we get at church yes we need to be part of the assembly of God i believe in that 100 per cent but if u have a very strong relationship with the lord then whether the church is left baptist or right pentecostal pales-honest.

Church becomes the culmination of what u are already experiencing with the lord during the week-if we believers get that we will stop getting offended with our pastors, deacons, ushers and whether we shd be wearing hats or not.

If we will walk into our services so drunk and heavy with the Spirit that we cannot even stand up what tim will we have to be bothered whether someone likes us or nor or who was looking at us kinda funny or not.

Again i say if people know seek God for themselves then there will be no confusion

[Rachel2]

B5 you make some very valid points and I do agree that our spirituality is individual and that we should seek God at all times and not just on Sunday.....But, speaking as one who has been attending church for 20 years as a single woman, I don't want to get married and still have to go to church alone. This is my personal view. When I do marry, I want my husband to participate in every facet of my life, including going to the same church.

I think participation in the same church will enrich the time we spend with God during the week b/c we can discuss things that go on in the church and make informed decisions if we have to or should he/I encounter a problem in the church, we will have first hand knowledge for how to pray about the situation.

And beside, I just want my man with me.... ;D

[Nikkol]

Part of what is discussed when we do marriage counselling is what church you will be attending. As the relationship between husband and wife is suppose to exemplify the relationship between Christ and the church, this can be difficult to do if they are both going to separate churches. When a person gets married, they become one and as the wife, it is her duty to submit to her husband and that would include church decisions. Granted, sometimes the husband may choose to go to the same church as the wife... but that decision is left to the husband. This also leaves less confusion for the kids in figuring out "who's church they are going to go to" ie Am I going with mom or dad.

At the same time, before you get married, you should understand these things and if necessary a new church that is good for both can occur. For example, my husband didn't really like my church and I didn't like his. However, when we got married, I went to his and when the time was right, we ended up finding a church that we both enjoyed until he went into pastorship.