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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on May 27, 2008 12:31:00 GMT -5
Has anyone seen this film? It's Christian based, biblically sound, and the title is only meant to be catchy, that's all. I'd like for this thread to be a discussion for those who have view the film. The link is soul mate film dot com. smile. The below quote is taken directly from the website: "Soulmate" explores the national phenomenon that 42.3% of black women have never been married and according to recent U.S. statistics, 70% of all black women are now single. The film takes an intimate look at the lives of accomplished, professional Black Christian Women who are finding purpose while single and offers practical advice from some of the nation's leading Christian leaders. “Soulmate” also profiles Black Christian Women who married after age 40 and shares their journeys to the altar. Once you guys have seen it, please come back and post your comments. I'll post mine tomorrow, getting off line now.......... |
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Post by kitty on May 27, 2008 16:21:35 GMT -5
hey Gap,
I didn't watch the trailer...But I did read the views... I'm sure that the movie is probably well made. But it didn't sound like it was bringing good news...
To be quite frankly... made me wonder if it would really increase our faith that God will bring us a mate...or help to destroy it?
Kitty
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Post by Jasmine on May 27, 2008 19:22:33 GMT -5
I watched the trailer, and it saddens me that 70% of ALL black women are not married.
It really goes back to social injustices. The vast majority of black men are either dead, in jail, gay, strung out somewhere, or not marriage material.
The bishop on the trailer, made the comments "everybody is not going to get married, it's sad, but definitely the truth.
I think its definitely an eye opener, but it shouldn't cause you to lose faith in marrying someone.
In the movie Something New, Sanaa Lathan (anybody seen it). She plays a successful black woman, who fell in love with a white man. There are many sisters who are marrying outside of the black race.
Love is not bound by color, and maybe thats an option where black christian women are concerned.
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Post by true on May 27, 2008 21:11:20 GMT -5
It's very sad that 70% of us are not married. Even sadder that some of us will never marry  I pray to not be in that category. I remember a long time ago Moknosmusic said that the Lord said black men are sick. That's why so many of them marry and date outside of their race. Thus leaving black women single. My advice to any women that wants to be married. Go to the Lord and tell him that you want to marry. Allow him to choose your mate. Allow him to decide what race your mate will be. I have no idea what race my husband is. I don't care what race he is. As long as he is from the Lord I am happy for him. I'm lying yall , I want a brother !!! |
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Post by vindicated on May 27, 2008 21:42:00 GMT -5
Jasmine that is my new favorite movie.
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Post by Jasmine on May 27, 2008 22:39:17 GMT -5
mine to. I watch it all the time and I'm already married.
Im just a sucker for love stories!
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Post by Jasmine on May 27, 2008 22:45:34 GMT -5
It's very sad that 70% of us are not married. Even sadder that some of us will never marry I pray to not be in that category. I remember a long time ago Moknosmusic said that the Lord said black men are sick. That's why so many of them marry and date outside of their race. Thus leaving black women single. My advice to any women that wants to be married. Go to the Lord and tell him that you want to marry. Allow him to choose your mate. Allow him to decide what race your mate will be. I have no idea what race my husband is. I don't care what race he is. As long as he is from the Lord I am happy for him. I'm lying yall , I want a brother !!! LOL aint nothing wrong with wanting a brother. They are truly the foundation, the Pioneers, the seed of the black family. but thats a whole nother discussion. I don't know if we really want to go there. |
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on May 28, 2008 5:36:35 GMT -5
The movie did not make me loose hope, rather, it forced honest and open dialogue about the realities both spiritual and natural of what the statistics show, and also the reality that in spite of that God can and does bring people 35+ together in his time and for his purposes. The movie ends with 4 couples who married over 40 and their testimonies.
But, it also forced us to face the fact that it's true, not everyone will marry. My question is, what will do if we never marry? Walk away from God? Marry outside of the body of Christ? Remain sad and bitter and resentful for the rest of our days? Sadly some will. But we have to determine that we won't. Like the 3 Hebrew boys "even if he doesn't....I won't bow down...."
I was encouraged by the movie because it shed light on a particular category of black christian women: over 35 and successful in business, finance, and health, but still single. It encouraged me to stay on track with keeping the faith, keeping God first and keeping in mind that nevertheless, not my will, thy will be done, for after all, HE is the one and only true SOUL mate to us all.
I know the ratio of men to women and especially black men to women is something like 8 to 1, but hey, I only need one and I serve a great big God! Smile. Now, I had hoped to start a thread to discuss the movie itself, so come on y'all, order the movie, review it and let's discuss.
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Post by true on May 28, 2008 9:00:18 GMT -5
That Sanaa movie was not all that to me at all. Now B. Underwood was looking nice as usual lol. It was just an alright move to me.
And I am a person who LOVES love stories. But that one was just alright to me.
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Post by Jasmine on May 28, 2008 10:50:40 GMT -5
I didn't like blair character in this movie.
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Post by vindicated on May 28, 2008 11:20:48 GMT -5
His character was kinda sad for me because he was EVERYTHING she ever wanted in a man but when she got him he wasn't right for her.
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Post by vindicated on May 28, 2008 11:21:21 GMT -5
I think we're discussing the wrong movie. :-)
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Post by Jasmine on May 28, 2008 11:23:40 GMT -5
That is so true. Her heart was not for him, or with him.
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Post by kitty on Jun 13, 2008 11:35:09 GMT -5
hey Guys,
I had the pleasure of hanging out with Gap yesterday... She was being a really kind friend that she took me out to lunch for my birthday and even got me some really good cake! We went to Cheese cake Factory and afterwards we went back to her home and she suggested that we watch this documentary...
Ladies... It was really good! I totally recommend that people order it or try to get a chance to see it... There is so much that we could discuss as a whole from it. Personally I don't know where to begin...
So I'll start where I was needling Gap.... One of the women being interview was Michelle McKinney Hammond... If you don't happen to know her, she has a been one of the top Christian authors and public speakers for quite some time... She is a stunning beautiful African American woman and many of you may have seen her on some Christian television networks hosting shows... She has been around for quite some time even before the Juanita bynums others... She has written over 25 books over the years about being single and looking for a Christian mate....
Sounds dandy right? But here my thing... I started to ask myself why would this woman of all people be still single all the years with all the opportunities that she has... So my question to may of you saints it this...
Truly many African American woman are still single... Could it be that many of us are truly getting in our own way when it comes to finding a husband or being lead? Could that truly be the reason opposed to a man shortage?
Share your thoughts...
Kitty
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Post by vindicated on Jun 13, 2008 14:16:08 GMT -5
Truly many African American woman are still single... Could it be that many of us are truly getting in our own way when it comes to finding a husband or being lead? Could that truly be the reason opposed to a man shortage? Share your thoughts... Kitty Kitty I think it's very possible that we can be our own worst enemy. And that in some instances (not all) some of could have been married by now. My "dream" incident really made me just lay down all my thoughts even the ones that have come to pass. Because our emotions just get in the way, even when God is moving. We still have to keep from running ahead of God. I was walking two weeks ago and just telling God, I'll accept whoever you have for me. No more trying to figure you out. I trust you. I know you love me. I know you want what's best for me. I trust your reason for doing something that you knew would hurt me. It takes a lot to get to that point but I'm reminding myself daily to stay right there. Concerning man shortage, I'll share what God told me a few years ago. He said, "Giving you a Godly man isn't the problem. I have plenty of Godly men. I just have them hidden like I have you hidden." |
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I pray to not be in that category.