Hung Up on WHO

[Poetricia (G.A.P.)]

Nov 19, 2008 18:20:22 GMT -5 kitty said:

.....In a lot of cases people's hearts are deceiving... I find that to be the case in the "boyfriend" husband issues... If God has promised one a husband then He promised them a husband. The problem comes when we get to hung up on WHO... Kitty

This quote was pulled from another thread, but I felt it deserved discussion.

Anyone care to elaborate on why and how we get HUNG UP ON WHO and how we can avoid doing that and yet still hold on to the promise of God for a mate?

[giantsdodie]

Stop walking by sight and start walking by faith.

What do I mean when I say that. Many christians participate in what I call " Sight Faith Walking " meaning as long as there is something to see to which I can attach my faith I will continue to believe. However THAT is not faith. SO when it comes to the WHO that essentially is what we are doing.

Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the WORD of God. Its what GOD has SAID where we shoukld hang our faith no matter what we SEE or DONT see.... If GOD SAID IT.. thats settles it.. I believe it no MATTER what.

[Poetricia (G.A.P.)]

Thanks Giants for your post.

I remember the first time I was "hung up on who." It was someone I was admiring, naming and claiming from afar. In prayer one day God told me "it's not the MAN, it's the PLAN." I heard it but I didn't get it at the time.

But I have come to understand that what he meant was "It's not the MAN I'm going to marry so much as it's GOD'S PLAN FOR MY MARRIAGE."

[kitty]

Hey Gap,
I think this is wonderful post because it is something that most of us are guilty of at some point in time... I know I was... But it was even scarier seeing the lengths that some other people have gone....

I have seen cases where some of us have gotten so hung up on believing God for a particular person opposed to a loving husband that they aren't able to let go even when that person has gotten married... Or when that shown that they are clearly not Godly...

I know that most of us would desire to have a testimony similar to Giants or maybe even Nikkol ( I'm still waiting for her to send my hers for my marriage website!) But that may not be how God is going to operate in everyone's life.

All I can say is that I certainly tried... But apparently that's not what God had in mind for ME. I can't speak for everyone else... And if God had a purpose for my experiences then maybe it would be so that others can wake up!

Like u Gap... I was in two different situations in which I believed God had declared that a certain man was my husband. In my case both od these men game to me and declared that's they had heard from God also and that I was the one... So surely if they both of us had heard from God separately then it going to work out right?

Nope!
Now both of those men are married to other people I was left holding the bag...

Did I miss God? Maybe... Was I mistaken at some point in time? Probably... Are ther other spiritual factors that could have occured? I most definitely think so....

But the bottom line is this... God did give me a brain and a very good one at that... I am now using prayer, common sense and wisdom... And I am quite pleased in the current courtship that I am in... I'm now looking to spend Thanksgiving with my new guy... we decided to keep a low profile but are likely to go and visit some of his relatives...

For the record... never spend any holidays with the guys I was believing God sent... Go figure?


Kitty