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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jan 2, 2009 12:44:22 GMT -5
Woman on a Mission to Marry in 52 Weeks
Neenah Pickett Launches Web Site to Help Her Find a Husband in a Year
By JONANN BRADY
Jan. 2, 2009
Lots of people made New Year's resolutions this week, but Neenah Pickett is really a woman on a mission -- a mission to find a husband in 2009. Pickett, a 42-year-old media consultant from New Jersey, launched a Web site Thursday to help her meet her future mate by next New Year's Eve. It's online dating to the extreme, but Pickett thinks it's so simple, it just might work. A man can just go on her site and fill out a profile. "I think what happens a lot is men will go to the dating Web sites and they just sort of have to plow through hundreds of different profiles," Pickett said today on "Good Morning America." "The goal was try to make it easier for men and say, 'Here's this Web site where you can easily go and learn about me and watch the videos.' It's not just my picture and you meet me and I look different from my picture. I have videos up there. I have friends talking about me." Pickett said like many women who work in New York City, she was extremely focused on her career in her 20s and 30s and didn't spend time looking for Mr. Right. Now after one failed engagement and around 100 fruitless Internet dates, she's decided to get more proactive. Pickett acknowledged that her efforts might be perceived as desperate. "I do worry about it," she said. "But I think there's a little of a double standard. I think of shows like 'The Bachelor,' they don't ever refer to the guy as desperate, but always the women." "It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be a great way to learn about me. I don't think I come across as desperate on the Web site. I think once they get to know me, I'm pretty easygoing, I'm a fun person. But if that's the perception they want to take away, I can't really do anything about that." Web Visitors Can Weigh In on Dates Pickett said she doesn't have a long list of qualifications a man must meet. She's looking for someone adventurous, easygoing, loyal and with a sense of humor. "I'm really open to meeting a lot of people from different backgrounds, ages, ethnicities," she said. Pickett's friends and family will also check out prospective matches. "I don't want the men to think we're going to come and criticize you, because that's not what it's about at all," she said. "It's about helping me find who is a good fit for me. Sometimes you don't have the right perspective when you're out there looking. And sometimes you dismiss a person because you think they're not right, and your friend will point out, 'Wait a minute, Neenah, think about this.'" People who visit the Web site can also weigh in on Pickett's suitors and she said "learn from my mistakes along the way." So what happens if she doesn't find her soul mate by 2010? "I said at the end of 52 weeks if I don't find him, I'm going to take a year off from dating. I think after 52 weeks, I'll probably need a break so that will be fine," Pickett said. "But I'm excited. I think it will happen in 52 weeks. I'm pretty comfortable with that." Source: abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=6564990&page=1
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jan 2, 2009 12:45:22 GMT -5
The above post was from ABC News. This post is from her website:
52 weeks 2 Find Him is a social experiment that focuses on a 42 year-old woman's journey to find her husband. It is an online documentary that is shaped by Neenah's actions and reactions, along with viewers' participation. What happens when a woman invites the world to become her dating coach? Each week, we invite you to tune-in and join-in by helping with Neenah's search, as she explores: the many methods of meeting eligible men, preparing for dates, and maintaining a healthy, romantic relationship.
Throughout the year, she will look to you, the web viewer, to provide direction, advice and support. Also, when you participate on her discussion board and with her online polls, you have a strong impact on how Neenah takes her next weekly step. The website will also give an account on how the viewers' interventions are impacting her search.
This website includes 5 minute weekly video episodes of Neenah's progression of finding her husband. Her daily blog about her quest, including triumphs, trials, fears and anticipation.
Also on this website, you'll meet Neenah's six friends who will be with her each step of the way. They will shed an interesting light on Neenah in a way she is unable to see or share about herself.
At the end of 52 weeks, if she hasn't found her life partner, she will take a full year off from pursuing relationships. For this executive, go-getter, the idea of sitting still for a year is like a death sentence. But always being opened to trying something new, Neenah will even acquiesce to the stillness to see what this new change of pace will bring. She is actually hoping it doesn't get to that point and is counting on the viewers' to help her meet her mate in the given time! If you, or you know someone who would be a great fit for Neenah and you want to set up a date, check out her "Him's" page to Request a Date.
Neenah is a business executive who lives in New Jersey. She's never been married, nor does she have any children. Neenah is a practical, yet adventurous woman, who celebrates tradition and at the same time loves to explore the new and unknown. Neenah doesn't consider herself a desperate single, but she does understand that at this point in her life, the odds of having a family of her own are against her. Where conventional methods have failed, Neenah decided to try a new approach to finding a husband.
If you enjoy tuning in each day to the morning shows to help plan a stranger's wedding on programs like Regis & Kelly or the Today show. You are the perfect person to help prepare a single woman for marriage. Who hasn't offered dating advice or wanted to become a matchmaker for a willing soul? Now, 52 Weeks… provides the viewer with the opportunity to help someone who is actually seeking them out.
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Post by kitty on Jan 2, 2009 13:35:20 GMT -5
Hey Gap,
Interesting post... I don't know what to think.... On one hand I think it is a good idea for many singles to make their personal lives just as important as their careers... I also don't think that their is anything wrong with using the internet to meet new people...
In the past I have meet many new friends and had two relationships that started that way.
But I don't quite know what I think about this woman's web site... I will have to go and check it out.
Kitty
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Jan 2, 2009 17:58:48 GMT -5
Wow, this story made my local news!
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Post by kitty on Jan 2, 2009 18:20:13 GMT -5
Hey Saints,
Can somebody post a link to her direct web site?
Kitty
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Jan 2, 2009 18:37:22 GMT -5
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Post by anointedteacher on Jan 2, 2009 22:07:59 GMT -5
She going to get alot of response, but it is a big risk, alot of freaks in the midst of good men. She not saved and not in the position to discern.
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Post by nina2 on Jan 5, 2009 5:58:44 GMT -5
I am beginning to seriously think that the main issue is that nobody, christian or not, is willing to just let things happen in their own time or to simply let go of being in control, as if everything had to be on some personal time schedule, including getting married.
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jan 5, 2009 6:41:43 GMT -5
I am beginning to seriously think that the main issue is that nobody, christian or not, is willing to just let things happen in their own time or to simply let go of being in control, as if everything had to be on some personal time schedule, including getting married. Nina, that was a word!!!!! AMEN!!!!!!! For the unsaved, it's about being in control, but for believers it's not only about being in control but not trusting God to be in control. I think the whole thing is sad ridiculous and a little disturbing, but hey, you'd be surprised at the intellectual black folk who are cheering her on the sidelines saying "you go girl" and "that's right take the bull by the horns and make things happen for yourself" Very sad indeed. But just like a certain Bishop's failed attempt at finding a new wife via reality tv, I will not be surprised at all when the next 52 weeks to find him candidate turns out to be someone "saved sanctified holy ghost filled and fire baptized!" I will not be surprised at all. |
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Post by kitty on Jan 5, 2009 12:48:48 GMT -5
Hey Guys,
Honestly I think this woman's web site is just a little over the top...
I don't it is a bad idea to join a dating web site such as eharmony. But I think she will attract the wrong kind of attention in this web site...
Plus I think it is just a little TOO public I mean she has a blog... she has friends to judge... and each persont hat goes on a date with her will have their picture posted up and she has promised to give serious details about each date...
That's just not a good way to start a relationship that is supposed to be private and intimate...
Lastly I think it would push away guy that would be possibly interested but are normaly private... I mean I rarely discuss my dates... I may share a few thought with this close to me... and the most I put out there is on this site where I am sharing with you guys who are Christians but know very little about the guys I'm dating or their true identities...
And honestly... I probabluy wouldn't even do that if this was a large site... oppose this close knit group a friends with whom I have fellowshiped with through this site for years...
I share because I respect you all abd your views...
Kitty
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Post by kitty on Jan 5, 2009 13:45:02 GMT -5
Ok Nina...
Let me ask you a question... what about the case of Ruth... would you say that she and Naomi didn't trust God? After all Boaz wasn't the next of kin... Nor did they wait for him to make a proposal to Ruth...
Kitty
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Post by krazeeboi on Jan 5, 2009 21:47:26 GMT -5
I am beginning to seriously think that the main issue is that nobody, christian or not, is willing to just let things happen in their own time or to simply let go of being in control, as if everything had to be on some personal time schedule, including getting married. Well, for women, I think it's pretty relevant, at least the schedule part. At this point, Neenah can still technically bear a child, although it won't be anywhere near as easy as 30. The later she waits, the more of an impossibility it will be. |
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Post by krazeeboi on Jan 5, 2009 21:51:07 GMT -5
For the unsaved, it's about being in control, but for believers it's not only about being in control but not trusting God to be in control. I guess it all boils down to whether or not one believes we're supposed to wait until God sends somebody or whether we should be looking. Or may this refers primarily to women, since men are supposed to be the "pursuer." It's really interesting though since the general attitude towards single men is that they'll get married when (or if) they want to. There's no waiting and agonizing and praying about "the one." Those instructions are primarily geared towards women. So we have to take those social factors into account as well, even more so when we're talking about Black women who would prefer to marry a Black man. |
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Post by Poetricia (G.A.P.) on Jan 6, 2009 6:56:19 GMT -5
It's really interesting though since the general attitude towards single men is that they'll get married when (or if) they want to. There's no waiting and agonizing and praying about "the one." . Wow. This may be true, but it sure does stings reading it. |
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Post by nina2 on Jan 6, 2009 7:24:17 GMT -5
I'll try to answer the best I can...
- what about the case of Ruth... would you say that she and Naomi didn't trust God? After all Boaz wasn't the next of kin...
True, Boaz was not the next of kin, there was one before him.
However, that's not where the book of Ruth starts, and we can't just isolate that fact from the process that lead to it.
Ruth did not choose to follow Naomi to find a husband. They were already on their way back to Beth Lechem, Judea when Naomi told both her daughters in law to go back to their people. She did mention that she could not have another husband or more children for them to remarry, etc....
What was Ruth's answer?
"Entreat me not to leave thee, And to return home from following after thee; For whither thou goest, I will go; And where thou lodgest, I will lodge; Thy people are my People, and thy God my God; where thou diest, will I die, and there be buried; May God do so to me, and more also, If aught but death part thee and me."
She made those vows and took GOD as her witness, and the reason why she did is because she did not want to go back to a godless people. She wanted to remain with Naomi and dwell with the Jews because she had come to believe... However, she had not converted yet....
Also, Ruth was a Moabite. The Moabites had been excluded from the congregation since the incident back under Moses when the Jews were making their way to the promised land, for ten generations...
Both Naomi and Ruth knew very well what Ruth would be exposed to on the part of the Jews and that she would not be included in the "community".
Naomi, on the other hand, also knew that her late husband still had land there that could be redeemed according to the Law.
So, for both them, they were actually going "by THE book" when they set out on their journey.
What happened in the process is also that both Naomi and Boaz were "educating" Ruth in the Jewish way of life. They were constantly advising her on how to behave, where to go, what to do, why they were doing things the way they did during the harvest, etc... And we know that, at some point, she did convert first, otherwise she would not have been able to marry Boaz, period.
In time, both Naomi and Boaz explained to her that Boaz was not the next of kin, that there was another one before him, and again, that there was a specific Jewish way to deal with the situation.
Naomi was not swayed by this event, she knew...
- Nor did they wait for him to make a proposal to Ruth...
Boaz would not have had to make a proposal since him marrying Ruth (after she converted) was a levirate marriage.
Again, during that night, both him and Naomi explained to Ruth what was going to happen and why. Ruth was following the advice of Naomi, and none of them was trying to find a way to force Boaz into anything or to compromise him, or to break the Law.
So, it's not - so to speak - as if Ruth was throwing herself at him. What she did that night was to put herself under his protection (interpretation of the Sages) and he made it clear that if the one who should marry her refused, then he would marry her.
Then, he took the steps to make sure that it would be done properly, with witnesses, etc...
So, all the parties involved acted according to their faith and following the Law.
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