Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Dec 26, 2009 9:29:41 GMT -5
This is something that I have been thinking about for some time. I may seem a bit all over the place in this post but it is only because I have so many questions and many thoughts that are not connecting. I don't even know if the title of the thread is correct but hopefully after some discussion it will all flesh out. Okay, here it goes...
I will give my opinion first. When it comes to healing - be it physical, mental, emotional etc. I believe the the Word of God, the Bible, has all of our answers. I truly believe that it provides the answer or if not a direct answer then some guidance in how to handle a particular issue. At the same time, there are certain things that we must do to have those promises manifest in our lives. At least I found that to be the case. For instance, I am believing the Lord for my physical healing. I know what promises are in the scripture regarding healing, yet at the same time I know I must also eat right and exercise. Does that make sense? Okay, good...
Now I am finding that more and more people are taking up the methods of Psychology in determining which healing method one should use. I find that much of the terminology is straight out of the Psychology books. I don't believe in Christian Psychology. I mean how is Psychology done in a Christian way? It doesn't make sense to me. Most times what I see is that its the same thing that is in the text books but a scripture here and there is added to make it "Christian."
I find this mainly in those called to Inner Healing and Deliverance. Now, I know I am also called to this aspect of Prayer Ministry but I find that many people shy away from it because of the different ways it is being done. I am not seeking to put down a particular minister so if possible I would like to leave the names out of this thread and simply speak about the methods (am I saying that correctly?).
One of the things I am now questioning is the issue with "co-dependent" relationships. Co-dependency was first used of family/children of Alcoholics. However, it has now been extended to any relationship one may be involved in. I am currently reading a book called Love is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting God of Unhealthy Relationships. The authors are Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth and Paul Meier. The book is about codependent relationships. On page 5 of this book, they define codependency as "an addiction to people, behaviors, or things." It goes on further to say : " Codependecy is the fallacy of trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things, and events on the outside. To the codependent, control or the lack of it is central to every aspect of life. The codependent may be addicted to another person. In this interpersonal codependency, the codependent has become so elaborately enmeshed in the other person that the sense of self-personal identity-is severely restricted, crowded out by that other person's identity and problems."
Okay, is this the same as what some in the Christian world would call a soul-tie? The book goes on to say that the co-dependent person cannot be immediately healed. It is a process and is something that they always have to be careful of. You know, sorta how they say "once and alcoholic always an alcoholic."
The other thing I have an issue with is the necessity in some of this to have the person go back to their childhood to determine how they felt regarding an event. Then use that event to determine which lie they believed and can now determine why the behave the way that they do. This is not in the book above but is just another question that I have. I don't see the need to go back to childhood to remember something in order to be healed from it. Again, I believe that by applying the principles as listed in the bible then one could walk in complete and total freedom.
I have specific examples but I will see if anyone responds first. Again, this is not to attack any particular minister but is an attempt to gain an understanding as why these things are so. I understand that the methods may work but are they biblical?
Thanks in advance.
I will give my opinion first. When it comes to healing - be it physical, mental, emotional etc. I believe the the Word of God, the Bible, has all of our answers. I truly believe that it provides the answer or if not a direct answer then some guidance in how to handle a particular issue. At the same time, there are certain things that we must do to have those promises manifest in our lives. At least I found that to be the case. For instance, I am believing the Lord for my physical healing. I know what promises are in the scripture regarding healing, yet at the same time I know I must also eat right and exercise. Does that make sense? Okay, good...
Now I am finding that more and more people are taking up the methods of Psychology in determining which healing method one should use. I find that much of the terminology is straight out of the Psychology books. I don't believe in Christian Psychology. I mean how is Psychology done in a Christian way? It doesn't make sense to me. Most times what I see is that its the same thing that is in the text books but a scripture here and there is added to make it "Christian."
I find this mainly in those called to Inner Healing and Deliverance. Now, I know I am also called to this aspect of Prayer Ministry but I find that many people shy away from it because of the different ways it is being done. I am not seeking to put down a particular minister so if possible I would like to leave the names out of this thread and simply speak about the methods (am I saying that correctly?).
One of the things I am now questioning is the issue with "co-dependent" relationships. Co-dependency was first used of family/children of Alcoholics. However, it has now been extended to any relationship one may be involved in. I am currently reading a book called Love is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting God of Unhealthy Relationships. The authors are Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth and Paul Meier. The book is about codependent relationships. On page 5 of this book, they define codependency as "an addiction to people, behaviors, or things." It goes on further to say : " Codependecy is the fallacy of trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things, and events on the outside. To the codependent, control or the lack of it is central to every aspect of life. The codependent may be addicted to another person. In this interpersonal codependency, the codependent has become so elaborately enmeshed in the other person that the sense of self-personal identity-is severely restricted, crowded out by that other person's identity and problems."
Okay, is this the same as what some in the Christian world would call a soul-tie? The book goes on to say that the co-dependent person cannot be immediately healed. It is a process and is something that they always have to be careful of. You know, sorta how they say "once and alcoholic always an alcoholic."
The other thing I have an issue with is the necessity in some of this to have the person go back to their childhood to determine how they felt regarding an event. Then use that event to determine which lie they believed and can now determine why the behave the way that they do. This is not in the book above but is just another question that I have. I don't see the need to go back to childhood to remember something in order to be healed from it. Again, I believe that by applying the principles as listed in the bible then one could walk in complete and total freedom.
I have specific examples but I will see if anyone responds first. Again, this is not to attack any particular minister but is an attempt to gain an understanding as why these things are so. I understand that the methods may work but are they biblical?
Thanks in advance.
