Falling in Love With an Unsaved Man

[abundanceofpraise]

Praise the Lord Everyone
Just wondering your thoughts on Love and Falling in love with a unsaved Person....
I been talking to this guy for a lil over a Year now and Im starting to really fall in Love with Him....The only thing is, He is not saved so Im really not sure what to do weither to persue this relatonship or cut the realtionship off? Im really not sure what to do. I really do care about this guy and have alote of feelings for Him.... Should it matter If He is saved or not?


Yours in Christ
Jessica

[giantsdodie]

Emotions are crazy things. Oftentimes they can lead you to make poor choices. I have had the misfortune of seeing many women I know who are saved fall for the unsaved man think that they can get them to change and get them saved.

The bible gives us some clear guidelines as far as close relationships with the unbeliever.


2 Corinthians 6:14-16

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Should it matter if he is saved or not. Of course it should. The Christian does not live a life of self. The Christian lives a life to please God. The Christian is to live holy. The Christian has a covenant with the Lord Jesus Christ and has the Spirit of the Living GOD dwelling IN Him or Her.

This is not the case with the unbeliever. They are separated from GOD because of their sin. They have not made JESUS the Lord of their lives. They are not living holy, nor are they living for Him. Jesus us NOT the source of their lives nor the King of their hearts. He is not part of their decision making processes.

Often time the saved child of God believes erroneously that when they hook up with the unbeliever that they unbeliever will get saved, that GOD will draw them into the kingdom. This type of "missionary" dating is usually born out of selfishness. We want them saved for all the wrong reasons. We want them saved so we can keep dating them. We want them saved because we have hopes of marriage. We want them saved because of our emotional attachment.

Unfortunately we neglect the fact the JESUS wants them saved because HE loves them and HE died for them

Jesus is supposed to be the first love in the life or a Christian. Why would a Christian want to love someone who doesnt have the same interests as they do ? Why would a Christian want to love someone who doesnt love Jesus the same way they do ?

As I have always said I dont believe in dating.. and Christians should NEVER date the unsaved... EVER..

[abundanceofpraise]

Wow Giant that was trully A Mouth full.... very hard to swallow But very true

[chosen]

Giant this one is for you LOL ;D I found this post on another board I visit sometimes we was talking about this very issue........... Be Blessed Jessica



2 Corinthians 6:13
14(C)Do not be bound together with (D)unbelievers; for what (E)partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

15Or what (F)harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a (G)believer in common with an (H)unbeliever?

I have seen so many saved women married to an unsaved men and the grief and pain these women go through is not worth it.

Many times these women can not serve God to their fullest. Because they are still as Godly women have to submit to their husbands and the husbands don't want them at church etc because it takes away time from them.

Marriage is hard enough without adding the fact that you are not equally yoked spiritually.

One thing I would advise: Don't think for one minute the thought "well he will change when we get married." Big mistake! Do not think for one minute you will be able to change him or any other man. Only God can change people and they have to desire to change. We all have our free wills and God will not go against that.

It is better to take God's advice which I have given you in the word.

Ask yourself is it really worth it?

One other thing I will say is God has HIS best for you somewhere out there and if you are saved and serious about serving Him then HIS best would never be with an unbeliever.

Are you going to settle for His best or for what you think is best?

My advice: YOu better re-think things and wait for God to bring you the right mate.


Please note I hope I have not come across to strong. I mean no offense by any means.

Be Blessed!







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[chosen]

ohhhhhhh Here is another post that really ministered to me these sisters where preachin to me


What has light to do with darkness?

Not sure if you slept with this man but if you did you need to break the soul tie?

If you marry someone that is unsaved then his father satan will be your father in law. He has not given his life to Christ.

I have seen marriages like this and they ended in divorce. Jealousy of serving God, holding them down trying to control them were just a few.

Sorry I couldn't sugar coat this but satan has come to kill, steal and destroy no one is exempt. He comes as a thief, no thief wants to be recognized, spotted or detected.

Sincerely pray that the Lord will remove all those on an assignment to hinder you.



Watchman

[Rachel2]

Hi Jessica,

I have not taken the time to read past your original post, so I don't know if someone has already said this to you or not.........

But, take it from me. LET HIM GO!!! Cut your losses and deal with the broken heart. I promise the pain will eventually go away. I know this is very hard to do but, pray and ask the Lord to help you and he will, if you really mean it. I have been there so I know how you feel.

No matter how much you love him, you will always be torn between him and Jesus, especially if he has no intentions of ever being saved in the sense that we know salvation.

I heard Pastor David Paul say once, "If you are hooked up with someone who is not saved and you are, there is not enough love in the world to make the relationship work."

Because if you should marry him eventually he will become resentful of you going to church, paying you tithes and doing other things for the Lord.

DO NOT BE DECEIVED GIRLFRIEND...satan is good at putting up a smoke screen until he gets you out of the "saftey zone" away from Jesus.

Just like the Holy Spirit rules in your life, demonic spirits rule in his life. And trust me, that will not change unless he gets saved. I don't care how much he professes to love you and say it's okay for you to go to church as much as you want and that it's not a problem. Believe me it is a problem and a BIG one.

[chosen]

Thank you Rachel, and yes I have cut this relationship off. It hasn't been easy, I still love him very much.


Be Blessed
Jessica

[Rachel2]

I have been there and I do understand the struggle and the pain. If you would like to continue talking about this out of public view....feel free to send me an email.

I will try help as much as I can.

Be Blessed.

[chosen]

Thank you Miss Rachel2 I will do that.



Jessica