Post by vindicated on May 8, 2008 11:48:53 GMT -5
1. Think Twice If You Do Not Possess A Passionate Desire To Give To Them. The proof of love is the desire to give. Jesus explained it. "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son..." (John 3:16). Too often, marriage becomes an exchange.
Exchange is the evidence of business, not love. You should desire to give Time, the greatest gift God gave you. The proof of uncommon love is the investment of time.
2. Think Twice If They Do Not Possess A Passionate Desire To Give Back To You. This does not refer to expensive gifts, huge amounts of money or clothes. A listening ear, flexibility, patience, and the willingness to be corrected are gifts.
3. Think Twice If Your Personal Achievements Do Not Create Excitement In Them. When good things happen, who is the first person you desire to telephone? Pay attention to that. Celebration is a Compass. Those you love to celebrate with are clues to the puzzle of your life. When uncommon love exists, uncommon celebration is normal. Uncommon love does not compete with success of another. It tastes and savors and enjoys the pleasure of another.
4. Think Twice If They Have Not Been Captivated By What Has Captivated You. It is not enough for your mate to be captivated by you, they must be stirred by the same thing that stirs you. If you want to know who someone is, study what they focus on.
5. Think Twice If You Have Lost Your Desire To Impress Them. You are a walking message system to those you love. Would you fly a plane with seats broken, egg on the tie of the pilot, missing buttons and torn seats? Of course not. You would think "That's visible damage. What else has not been corrected in the engine?" Something is wrong when you no longer desire to
present your best to your mate.
6. Think Twice If They Never Ask Quality Questions Concerning Your Greatest Dreams and Goals. Questions reveal desire. Questions reveal humility.
7. Think Twice If They Ignore Worthy Counsel From Qualified Mentors In Their Life. Who are their heroes? You become like those you admire. You adapt to the habits of those you envy.
8. Think Twice If You Do Not See Continuous Improvement In The Relationship. Improvement is revealed by the decrease of conflict. Conflict occurs through opposite goals, philosophies, or beliefs. Bonding should increase unity and bring a decrease in
contention and strife. Strife is the evidence of Opposite Belief Systems.
9. Think Twice If They Show Little Pain or Remorse Concerning Their Past Mistakes and Sins. Those who are truely repentant truly hurt. Repentant people are not arrogant. Repentant people do not blame others for their decisions. Memories of mistakes should produce sorrow and heartache. When regret is not expressed the offense usually occurs again. Some people never repent for past mistakes. Why? They have not tasted the
painful consequences of their choices. They believe they are beyond judgement. Uncorrected Conduct Becomes Repeated Conduct. The fear of God keeps a mate faithful. Beauty will not. Beauty cannot guarantee faithfulness. The fear of God keeps us faithful. You will never respect someone you are capable of
deceiving.
10. Think Twice If They Have An Obsession To Attract The Attention Of The Opposite Sex. Some women are not happy unless every man in the room gravitates around her as the "center of attention." Some men cannot pass by a mirror without sitting down for a while and staring, mesmerized by their perceived beauty.
11. Think Twice If Breaking The Law Is Humorous and Exciting to Them. If someone has road rage and loves to break the Speeding limit or run red lights, it shows they despise restraint and have no respect for the law.
12. Think Twice If They Show Little Respect For The Agenda and Schedule Of Others. Your respect for the schedule of others reveals much about you.
13. Think Twice When It Is Obvious They Embrace An Accusation Against You Before They Have Heard Your Side Of The Matter. Loyalties will be identified and exposed eventually showing that others can lie about you and your explanation will never be valued or believed because finding out the truth is not their
focus.
14. Think Twice If They Have Not Exited Previous Relationships Peaceably. Many thrive on strife. They will destroy anything they cannot control. Peace bores them. Silence nauseates them. Drama is their fuel. They will speak any words necessary to find the boundary lines and limitations around them. People like this rarely have enjoyable marriages.
15. Think Twice If Their Parents Have Contempt For You. The bloodline is more powerful than anyone can imagine. It is a spiritual thing. It is a spirit connection. God arranged it Himself. So you may marry a rebel who despises his/her parents, but when crisis comes, they will reach back to the bloodline for
affirmation. If you marry someone whose parents look
condescendingly upon you because of your lack of education, social class or finances, remember that they will always be the third party speaking into the heart of your mate.
16. Think Twice If Pebble Problems Unleash Mountains Of Anger In Them. People who are quick to get angry over trivial things have not yet learned the difference in important things.
17. Think Twice If They Refuse To Find A Job. It is a sin not to work. Money is a reward for solving problems. If you never have any money, you are probably refusing to solve the problems nearest you, or for someone you should. It is important to marry
someone happy before you enter their life. Productive people excite productive people.
18. Think Twice If Their Own Dreams Are Not Big Enough To Motivate Them. If they can sleep in all day, watch TV all night and refuse to produce anything significant with their life...you better think twice before pouring your life into them. Every person
should have a dream big enough to get them out of bed every morning or keep them up at night!
19. Think Twice If They Feel Inferior To You. True, everyone is superior to others in some way. But, it is important that those who walk beside you feel confident, qualified and called of God to be your Mate.
20. Think Twice If They Do Not Long To Understand And Pleasure You. Uncommon love longs to pleasure another. Uncommon Love seeks every opportunity to communicate itself. What do you enjoy? What books do you love to read? Where do you want to go on your vacation? What is your favorite flower? Your Mate should know.
21. Think Twice If Continuous Strife Exists Between Them And Their Parents. Honoring your parents was the first commandment with a promise. Those who celebrate the authority over their life ultimately succeed.
22. Think Twice If They Treat The Favor Of Others With ingratitude. If a person cannot say thank you for kind acts received, it says alot about them.
23. Think Twice If You Are Not Excited About Introducing Them To Those You Love. When you are truly in love, that's all you want to talk about. Are you ashamed? Why? Be truthful with yourself.
24. Think Twice If They Show Little Respect For The Battles You Have Won Throughout Your Lifetime. When someone loves you, they admire your achievements.
25. Think Twice If Conversation With Them Has Become
Burdensome. Right people energize you. Wrong people exhaust you. True love will energize.
26. Think Twice If They Make Major Decisions Of Their Life Without Pursuing Your Feedback. If your feedback is not important to someone, then maybe you aren't either.
27. Think Twice If Your Time Spent With Them Always Ends With Personal Guilt Or Disappointment. Withdrawal from any relationship occurs if guilt, fear, or a sense of entrapment emerges.
28. Think Twice If People Of Excellence Do Not Surround Them. Study the kinds of people that your potential mate finds enjoyable. That is a clue to their life and your future with them.
29. Think Twice If They Are Unwilling To Follow Your Personal Advice and Counsel. A godly wife is a prophetess in the bosom of her husband. A husband should be a well of wisdom for his wife.
30. Think Twice If You Only Enjoy Them During Moments Of Weakness Instead Of Moments Of Strength. Some relationships exist because of mutual weakness, rather than mutual goals.
31. Think Twice If They Continuously Give You Counsel Contrary To The Word Of God. The Word of God is truth. It will withstand any test. It destroys wrong desires within you. It unleashes faith. It produces hope. It purifies the mind.
32. Think Twice If Their Presence Does Not Motivate You To A Higher Level Of Excellence. You already possess weaknesses. You do not require anyone to feed them. Anyone can pull you down. God gives you a Mate to lift you up.
33. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With The Knowledge Of Your Greatest Weakness. Each of us contain weaknesses that embarrass us. We despise them. It may be anger, fear or lust. Your Mate is there to strengthen you, not weaken you. If you believe it is necessary to hide your weakness instead of share it,
you may have the wrong Mate.
34. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Finances. Do not bond your life with someone too immature to handle the importance of financial responsibility.
35. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Most Painful Memories. Every person is running from a painful memory. Memories are keys to understanding another.
36. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Greatest Fears or Secrets. Fear often limits us. It should motivate us...to change. It may be the fear of flying, or the dark. It may be a fear of dying with disease. Whatever it is - think twice if the love is
not strong enough to destroy fear.
37. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them Around Your Closest Friends. Flirtation is deadly. The death of many marriages begins with flirtation. It is not harmless. Ever.
38. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them In Your Absence. Jealousy is a cruel dictator and tyrant. It is often unfounded and produced by a painful memory of disloyalty or betrayal. Yet, many marriages unravel because of a deep sense of distrust. Note the signals.
39. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them To Pursue God Without Your Constant Encouragement. Bring your potential mate into God's presence with you. Talk to God together. Truth will emerge in His presence that cannot emerge anywhere else.
40. Define your present relationships honestly and clearly. If you persist in an unwholesome relationship, painful consequences will teach you. Never lean to your own understanding. Lean to the heart of God. Ask God what he sees in those near you. He will always reveal the truth. Be ready to handle the answer.
Exchange is the evidence of business, not love. You should desire to give Time, the greatest gift God gave you. The proof of uncommon love is the investment of time.
2. Think Twice If They Do Not Possess A Passionate Desire To Give Back To You. This does not refer to expensive gifts, huge amounts of money or clothes. A listening ear, flexibility, patience, and the willingness to be corrected are gifts.
3. Think Twice If Your Personal Achievements Do Not Create Excitement In Them. When good things happen, who is the first person you desire to telephone? Pay attention to that. Celebration is a Compass. Those you love to celebrate with are clues to the puzzle of your life. When uncommon love exists, uncommon celebration is normal. Uncommon love does not compete with success of another. It tastes and savors and enjoys the pleasure of another.
4. Think Twice If They Have Not Been Captivated By What Has Captivated You. It is not enough for your mate to be captivated by you, they must be stirred by the same thing that stirs you. If you want to know who someone is, study what they focus on.
5. Think Twice If You Have Lost Your Desire To Impress Them. You are a walking message system to those you love. Would you fly a plane with seats broken, egg on the tie of the pilot, missing buttons and torn seats? Of course not. You would think "That's visible damage. What else has not been corrected in the engine?" Something is wrong when you no longer desire to
present your best to your mate.
6. Think Twice If They Never Ask Quality Questions Concerning Your Greatest Dreams and Goals. Questions reveal desire. Questions reveal humility.
7. Think Twice If They Ignore Worthy Counsel From Qualified Mentors In Their Life. Who are their heroes? You become like those you admire. You adapt to the habits of those you envy.
8. Think Twice If You Do Not See Continuous Improvement In The Relationship. Improvement is revealed by the decrease of conflict. Conflict occurs through opposite goals, philosophies, or beliefs. Bonding should increase unity and bring a decrease in
contention and strife. Strife is the evidence of Opposite Belief Systems.
9. Think Twice If They Show Little Pain or Remorse Concerning Their Past Mistakes and Sins. Those who are truely repentant truly hurt. Repentant people are not arrogant. Repentant people do not blame others for their decisions. Memories of mistakes should produce sorrow and heartache. When regret is not expressed the offense usually occurs again. Some people never repent for past mistakes. Why? They have not tasted the
painful consequences of their choices. They believe they are beyond judgement. Uncorrected Conduct Becomes Repeated Conduct. The fear of God keeps a mate faithful. Beauty will not. Beauty cannot guarantee faithfulness. The fear of God keeps us faithful. You will never respect someone you are capable of
deceiving.
10. Think Twice If They Have An Obsession To Attract The Attention Of The Opposite Sex. Some women are not happy unless every man in the room gravitates around her as the "center of attention." Some men cannot pass by a mirror without sitting down for a while and staring, mesmerized by their perceived beauty.
11. Think Twice If Breaking The Law Is Humorous and Exciting to Them. If someone has road rage and loves to break the Speeding limit or run red lights, it shows they despise restraint and have no respect for the law.
12. Think Twice If They Show Little Respect For The Agenda and Schedule Of Others. Your respect for the schedule of others reveals much about you.
13. Think Twice When It Is Obvious They Embrace An Accusation Against You Before They Have Heard Your Side Of The Matter. Loyalties will be identified and exposed eventually showing that others can lie about you and your explanation will never be valued or believed because finding out the truth is not their
focus.
14. Think Twice If They Have Not Exited Previous Relationships Peaceably. Many thrive on strife. They will destroy anything they cannot control. Peace bores them. Silence nauseates them. Drama is their fuel. They will speak any words necessary to find the boundary lines and limitations around them. People like this rarely have enjoyable marriages.
15. Think Twice If Their Parents Have Contempt For You. The bloodline is more powerful than anyone can imagine. It is a spiritual thing. It is a spirit connection. God arranged it Himself. So you may marry a rebel who despises his/her parents, but when crisis comes, they will reach back to the bloodline for
affirmation. If you marry someone whose parents look
condescendingly upon you because of your lack of education, social class or finances, remember that they will always be the third party speaking into the heart of your mate.
16. Think Twice If Pebble Problems Unleash Mountains Of Anger In Them. People who are quick to get angry over trivial things have not yet learned the difference in important things.
17. Think Twice If They Refuse To Find A Job. It is a sin not to work. Money is a reward for solving problems. If you never have any money, you are probably refusing to solve the problems nearest you, or for someone you should. It is important to marry
someone happy before you enter their life. Productive people excite productive people.
18. Think Twice If Their Own Dreams Are Not Big Enough To Motivate Them. If they can sleep in all day, watch TV all night and refuse to produce anything significant with their life...you better think twice before pouring your life into them. Every person
should have a dream big enough to get them out of bed every morning or keep them up at night!
19. Think Twice If They Feel Inferior To You. True, everyone is superior to others in some way. But, it is important that those who walk beside you feel confident, qualified and called of God to be your Mate.
20. Think Twice If They Do Not Long To Understand And Pleasure You. Uncommon love longs to pleasure another. Uncommon Love seeks every opportunity to communicate itself. What do you enjoy? What books do you love to read? Where do you want to go on your vacation? What is your favorite flower? Your Mate should know.
21. Think Twice If Continuous Strife Exists Between Them And Their Parents. Honoring your parents was the first commandment with a promise. Those who celebrate the authority over their life ultimately succeed.
22. Think Twice If They Treat The Favor Of Others With ingratitude. If a person cannot say thank you for kind acts received, it says alot about them.
23. Think Twice If You Are Not Excited About Introducing Them To Those You Love. When you are truly in love, that's all you want to talk about. Are you ashamed? Why? Be truthful with yourself.
24. Think Twice If They Show Little Respect For The Battles You Have Won Throughout Your Lifetime. When someone loves you, they admire your achievements.
25. Think Twice If Conversation With Them Has Become
Burdensome. Right people energize you. Wrong people exhaust you. True love will energize.
26. Think Twice If They Make Major Decisions Of Their Life Without Pursuing Your Feedback. If your feedback is not important to someone, then maybe you aren't either.
27. Think Twice If Your Time Spent With Them Always Ends With Personal Guilt Or Disappointment. Withdrawal from any relationship occurs if guilt, fear, or a sense of entrapment emerges.
28. Think Twice If People Of Excellence Do Not Surround Them. Study the kinds of people that your potential mate finds enjoyable. That is a clue to their life and your future with them.
29. Think Twice If They Are Unwilling To Follow Your Personal Advice and Counsel. A godly wife is a prophetess in the bosom of her husband. A husband should be a well of wisdom for his wife.
30. Think Twice If You Only Enjoy Them During Moments Of Weakness Instead Of Moments Of Strength. Some relationships exist because of mutual weakness, rather than mutual goals.
31. Think Twice If They Continuously Give You Counsel Contrary To The Word Of God. The Word of God is truth. It will withstand any test. It destroys wrong desires within you. It unleashes faith. It produces hope. It purifies the mind.
32. Think Twice If Their Presence Does Not Motivate You To A Higher Level Of Excellence. You already possess weaknesses. You do not require anyone to feed them. Anyone can pull you down. God gives you a Mate to lift you up.
33. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With The Knowledge Of Your Greatest Weakness. Each of us contain weaknesses that embarrass us. We despise them. It may be anger, fear or lust. Your Mate is there to strengthen you, not weaken you. If you believe it is necessary to hide your weakness instead of share it,
you may have the wrong Mate.
34. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Finances. Do not bond your life with someone too immature to handle the importance of financial responsibility.
35. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Most Painful Memories. Every person is running from a painful memory. Memories are keys to understanding another.
36. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them With Your Greatest Fears or Secrets. Fear often limits us. It should motivate us...to change. It may be the fear of flying, or the dark. It may be a fear of dying with disease. Whatever it is - think twice if the love is
not strong enough to destroy fear.
37. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them Around Your Closest Friends. Flirtation is deadly. The death of many marriages begins with flirtation. It is not harmless. Ever.
38. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them In Your Absence. Jealousy is a cruel dictator and tyrant. It is often unfounded and produced by a painful memory of disloyalty or betrayal. Yet, many marriages unravel because of a deep sense of distrust. Note the signals.
39. Think Twice If You Cannot Trust Them To Pursue God Without Your Constant Encouragement. Bring your potential mate into God's presence with you. Talk to God together. Truth will emerge in His presence that cannot emerge anywhere else.
40. Define your present relationships honestly and clearly. If you persist in an unwholesome relationship, painful consequences will teach you. Never lean to your own understanding. Lean to the heart of God. Ask God what he sees in those near you. He will always reveal the truth. Be ready to handle the answer.
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