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Nikkol
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Widows Apr 22, 2009 9:41:50 GMT -5

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Post by Nikkol on Apr 22, 2009 9:41:50 GMT -5

As I was driving into work, I was thinking about ppl who are widows and choose/decide to get remarried. Do you (general) put away all pictures of the first spouse or do you keep them out along with pictures of the new spouse?

Granted if it was a divorce, probably all pictures of the first spouse are put away/hidden/burned/etc. but in this type of situation, I would assume that the "rules" are different.....

Just wondering...

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nina2
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Widows Apr 22, 2009 11:47:12 GMT -5

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Post by nina2 on Apr 22, 2009 11:47:12 GMT -5

I am a widow and I am not remarried.
If I did, I don't think that I would just hide away everything related to my husband, period. It would not be right either to turn the house into a shrine with pictures everywhere. It seems to me that stepping into a new marriage would call for some type of balance reached out of the couple just talking about it.

I knew a couple and both the husband and the wife were widowers. I saw their house and there was no "display" of pictures of the spouses they lost. Only of their respective children. They did have in the house things that came from the previous households, but they had decided together what they would keep in their house and what they would not. Obviously, individually, there were things that they kept, and they had agreed on those too.

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Rachel2
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Widows Apr 22, 2009 14:34:50 GMT -5

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Post by Rachel2 on Apr 22, 2009 14:34:50 GMT -5

I would not put away all pictures of my deceased spouse, neither would I expect my new spouse to put away all pictures of his deceased wife. As stated, we would decide and be selective about what pictures to display.

I would not marry a person who has a problem with me displaying a picture/s of my deceased spouse. To me that would be a sign of insensitivity/control on his part which means we would definitely have problems in other areas of the marriage.

Last Edit: Apr 22, 2009 14:35:59 GMT -5 by Rachel2