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Post by nina2 on May 11, 2009 2:40:04 GMT -5
Ohio teen expects to be suspended for trip to prom
AP Sun May 10, 11:46 am ET
FINDLAY, Ohio – An Ohio teenager says he expects to be suspended from a Christian school for attending a public school prom with his girlfriend.
Officials at Heritage Christian School in Findlay had warned 17-year-old Tyler Frost that he would be suspended and prohibited from attending graduation if he went to the Saturday dance. The fundamentalist Baptist school in northwest Ohio forbids dancing, rock music and hand holding.
Frost says he went to the dance because he wanted to experience the prom and didn't think it was wrong.
School officials say he could complete his final exams separately to receive a diploma.
Frost's stepfather says the rules shouldn't apply outside of school and he may take legal action if Frost is suspended.
Any thoughts??
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Post by Nikkol on May 11, 2009 7:45:45 GMT -5
Why go to a private school if you want to do your own thing? I DOUBT this was a shocking discovery. Seems to me like a lack of discipline....
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Post by kitty on May 11, 2009 13:00:30 GMT -5
Hey Nina,
Do I think the rules are a little overboard? Yes absolutely! But this student and his parents agreed to these rules when they enrolled him into that school. They are still giving him his high school dip. he just can't be a part of graduation... I think that is fair.
Now isn't lik he was attended Bob Jones University which had a rule about student of different races dating and having relationships with each other... that was probably illegal... But this...Hey rues are rules... His parents are really the one's to blame.
Why send your child to a school with whom you can't agree with the school's policy?
Kitty
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Post by anointedteacher on May 11, 2009 19:31:06 GMT -5
Hey Nina, Do I think the rules are a little overboard? Yes absolutely! But this student and his parents agreed to these rules when they enrolled him into that school. They are still giving him his high school dip. he just can't be a part of graduation... I think that is fair. Now isn't lik he was attended Bob Jones University which had a rule about student of different races dating and having relationships with each other... that was probably illegal... But this...Hey rues are rules... His parents are really the one's to blame. Why send your child to a school with whom you can't agree with the school's policy? Kitty May be when his parent enrolled him into the school... he probably was in grade school and prom and dance wasn't an issue. This is at the end of the year and he will be graduating... why suspension.... I know rules are rules, but they could lighten up over a simple prom.. |
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Post by Nikkol on May 12, 2009 7:03:55 GMT -5
Hey Nina, Do I think the rules are a little overboard? Yes absolutely! But this student and his parents agreed to these rules when they enrolled him into that school. They are still giving him his high school dip. he just can't be a part of graduation... I think that is fair. Now isn't lik he was attended Bob Jones University which had a rule about student of different races dating and having relationships with each other... that was probably illegal... But this...Hey rues are rules... His parents are really the one's to blame. Why send your child to a school with whom you can't agree with the school's policy? Kitty May be when his parent enrolled him into the school... he probably was in grade school and prom and dance wasn't an issue. This is at the end of the year and he will be graduating... why suspension.... I know rules are rules, but they could lighten up over a simple prom.. I think that the problem with "lightening up is that it's the principle behind it. If they would allow this, they'd have a LOT of explaining to do. I believe that their issue religiously is in reference to going into those types of environments (ie dancing somewhat could be provocative/secular music/etc). It's not just because of the prom but moreso what it stands behind. And you know just like we all know that if they'd let one person go, everyone else would feel as tho they could go as well and if they couldn't go then it would seem like favoritism.... I always tell this story (and I know it's corny) but when I was growing up, I couldn't use a "big fork" (vs the smaller forks) until I was at least 12. However, my siblings were using the big forks when they were around 8. I remember being upset because I didn't like the fact that they bent the rule for my siblings. (and I have a LOT of those types of stories) And now that I have an almost 12 year old sister, you KNOW I got a WHOLE LOT MORE. (LOL)..... But it just goes to show how changing a rule could possibly cause havoc and even resentment. (granted I didn't go through that because it wasn't worth it by the time they were doing what I couldn't have done)....Make sense? |
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Post by nina2 on May 12, 2009 7:20:52 GMT -5
OK, the student is being suspended because of "attending a public school prom with his girlfriend".
His girlfriend attends the public school in question and he went with her.
He did not have any conduct problem at the private school that he himself attends. He is a senior, which means that he is around 18 and, obviously, has a girlfriend who is not even on campus with him at any time so, there can't anything objected to by the school's leadership from that.
I read a previous article about this situation that stated that, the school's rule is that should a student consider doing something "secular" re considered breaking a rule of the private school, the procedure is to get a form, and submit it to the head of school for approval and signature. THAT WAS DONE and the PRINCIPAL signed it.
THEN, after signing it, he decided to take it to the leadership of the church! They made the decision that it was inappropriate and to suspend him IF he went ahead and went to the prom in question.
So, when we talk about "lack of discipline" and "why send your child to a school with whom you can't agree with the school's policy?" - and I do respect everyone's opinion - it seems to me that we are completely ignoring the fact that this young man is not a child anymore, he is graduating and possibly going to college next, what exactly do we expect, as christians, from young people that age??
Why should we immediately start thinking that this student is into all kinds of ungodly things and his parents are probably heathens for letting him go to a prom with his girlfriend? Why do we always expect the worst?
Christian or not, any parent knows that if a child of theirs wants to do anything "wrong", they will, whether in a christian school or a public one. And, chances are, it will happen on campus, whether of a public or a private school!
I guess some would say that "it will teach him a lesson" and he certainly is learning a great one, first of all in hypocrisy, because he actually went by their book and still ended up holding the wrong end of the stick....
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Post by anointedteacher on May 12, 2009 11:57:33 GMT -5
nina2, you are saying that he didn't break any rules.... he follow procedures and got an approval and signature.... The church, ... not the school, say No, after the principal appoved his request. The school and church are wrong, not the kid...
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