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Post by keita on Oct 10, 2007 7:55:47 GMT -5
She can talk to a lot of us right here, bro giants!  |
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Post by keita on Oct 10, 2007 8:59:22 GMT -5
I probably wouldn't make a good wife anyway!!!! AMEN! BUT GOD, who is your perfect, now and eternal HUSBAND, can and will surely make you into "a suitable helpmeet" at HIS will and pleasure! "Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness" any time "depression" even tries to show up lying about GOD and you. And as a praiser and praise leader, GOD has perfectly equipped and called you to do exactly that. So....... KEEP ASKING ( asking, seeking, knocking in prayer and action), KEEP WAITING(but be real clear about what that means, and I heard bro kanyon tell ya right on your "What Does Waiting Really Mean" thread.), KEEP BREATHING[/b] (and I already told you why on that same (but name-changed to "Waiting to Exhale") thread.) KEEP SINGING!!!(to and about the LORD just because HE loves that!) And KEEP LISTENING (not just read/hear but truly listen) to bro giants (and that brand of wisdom) because he knows and he's freely sharing that knowledge with you and all of us. Serving the broken, lonely and helpless, as you do for a living, will keep your heart tender and you compassionate. Both are essential in a "good wife" and any worthwhile woman, so see what you do, and your servant's heart, as a part of GOD's "making you" too. And keep right on blessing those "little old patients" 'cause they are in the very heart of JESUS. Then, because of the kind of GOOD GOD you serve, simply trust that your faith will be rewarded and your prayers answered........ And most of all....stop talking crazy about "old maids" and such. Stop speaking negatively about yourself and your future. Because the power of life and death really is in your tongue.  |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Oct 10, 2007 9:34:15 GMT -5
I will be 38 in November and I am not sad one bit that I am still single. A couple of years ago I thought marriage was in the immediate future but, not so. I am glad that I made the decision NOT to marry then because it would have been a disaster.
As I approach my 40's, I don't consider myself an old maid at all. I am enjoying myself and doing that which I feel God has for me during this season in my life. I don't believe that I should wait around for someone to "find me".
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 10, 2007 14:35:39 GMT -5
ASWSOY..thanks for you last post !! I am enjoying my life and understanding that because I am not married..does not make me uncomplete. Even though I don't look my age..I love the fact that I know that my Father in heaven will not just take me to any old body who claims I am his wife. Many of us are not married..because the Lord knows that the men that will marry will truly be men of God..after his heart. I have found out it's only the body of Christ that others start tripping because you're not " married"....especially married women !!
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Oct 10, 2007 14:55:19 GMT -5
I've come across many single people that are really waiting for that person to come along. Now I am not saying that there is something wrong with waiting, but there is something wrong when you are "waiting" and becoming depressed because others around you are getting married. To that I say, wrong focus.
I like what Bro. Giants teach when he states what one should be doing during that time. Not only does he say to do what God will have you to do but he also reminds us to make sure that we are prepared to be a wife. Most of us are so caught up in the romance (and sex!) of it all that we totally forget that God has a purpose for us!
Please do not get me started on the Boaz story because I am also tired of hearing sisters talking 'bout "I'm waiting for Boaz" yet they forget the part of the story where Ruth was actually "gleaning" (yes, working in the field) and was not even thinking of marrying Boaz until her mother-in-law put it in her head. Ruth was concerned with providing for herself and her mother in law. She was honoring the widow (being a widow herself). She was working, ministering (serving) and at that time her mother in law/mentor gave her the wisdom on how to get Boaz.
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Post by anointedteacher on Oct 10, 2007 17:14:45 GMT -5
I've come across many single people that are really waiting for that person to come along. Now I am not saying that there is something wrong with waiting, but there is something wrong when you are "waiting" and becoming depressed because others around you are getting married. To that I say, wrong focus. I like what Bro. Giants teach when he states what one should be doing during that time. Not only does he say to do what God will have you to do but he also reminds us to make sure that we are prepared to be a wife. Most of us are so caught up in the romance (and sex!) of it all that we totally forget that God has a purpose for us! Please do not get me started on the Boaz story because I am also tired of hearing sisters talking 'bout "I'm waiting for Boaz" yet they forget the part of the story where Ruth was actually "gleaning" (yes, working in the field) and was not even thinking of marrying Boaz until her mother-in-law put it in her head. Ruth was concerned with providing for herself and her mother in law. She was honoring the widow (being a widow herself). She was working, ministering (serving) and at that time her mother in law/mentor gave her the wisdom on how to get Boaz. AMEN!!!! I will be 50 in May, I am singel never marry and I feel good about being single and free.... I've went through the wanta be marry thing when I was your age, most women go through that, even some married women. You have been given some great advises and wisdom right here on this BB.... |
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 10, 2007 18:24:18 GMT -5
Alright ladies !! This post has had me laughing all day !! I used to feel the same way..until I realized I wasn't ready to be married..and I am laughing at my own self. Yet, I am enjoying life..I have 2 grandsons..and they keep me laughing. ASWSOY..the Boaz story played out with me long ago..you're right she was busy..and wasn't looking for him either. Actually she was paying him no attention !! I go to the movies by myself and enjoy myself !! How many of you plan on seeing Why Did Get Married this weekend ? The ladies from the church are going..I wasn't planning on it until next..low funds..but, some told to be ready at 12:00 pm this weekend. As my brother in the Lord..single brother..tells me go the nursing home and spend time with the elderly..bake some cookies..take a class..you'll be so busy that it won't bother you that you are not married..yet !!
Shucks..ya'll going to make me pull out my notebook and give Myles Munroe's perspective on the subject.
By the way..I heard one preacher say ya'll asking where is my husband ? And she said he's in the prisons, he's gay, and forget the third thing..because we're not praying for them...
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Post by abundanceofpraise on Oct 10, 2007 20:25:40 GMT -5
Alright ladies !! This post has had me laughing all day !! I used to feel the same way..until I realized I wasn't ready to be married..and I am laughing at my own self. Yet, I am enjoying life..I have 2 grandsons..and they keep me laughing. ASWSOY..the Boaz story played out with me long ago..you're right she was busy..and wasn't looking for him either. Actually she was paying him no attention !! I go to the movies by myself and enjoy myself !! How many of you plan on seeing Why Did Get Married this weekend ? The ladies from the church are going..I wasn't planning on it until next..low funds..but, some told to be ready at 12:00 pm this weekend. As my brother in the Lord..single brother..tells me go the nursing home and spend time with the elderly..bake some cookies..take a class..you'll be so busy that it won't bother you that you are not married..yet !! Shucks..ya'll going to make me pull out my notebook and give Myles Munroe's perspective on the subject. By the way..I heard one preacher say ya'll asking where is my husband ? And she said he's in the prisons, he's gay, and forget the third thing..because we're not praying for them... Right now Im not thinking this is funny at all just in my situation. I am glad to hear that you Ladies have found peace in your singleness that is trully a blessing. I pray that one Day I will come to terms with my singleness. Be blessed Soul Sistah's Jessica |
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 11, 2007 1:31:52 GMT -5
Now the situation isn't funny !! But, I found when I embraced it I able to really focus on the Lord. Our Pastor gave the singles instructions tonight..you know one where we can do more and be there longer... I let him know that we have to do the same things that married people it's just that instead of two..it's one person. I am over 40 with no one in sight..yet, I still believe that's going to change. Also, see yourself as God sees you..I realized some years ago it was my own words that ensnared me. I wasn't laughing at you..just some the posts. It actually got me through my day..thank you for your honesty.
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Post by abundanceofpraise on Oct 11, 2007 1:38:36 GMT -5
awww I still Love ya stillfocused , I was glad I was able to brighten your day!!! LOL and I do listen to the wisdom that has been shared on this board.......You see this Board is kind of like my diary(LOOK OUT  ) So I write what im feelin that perticular day. Im still learnin how to deal with my singleness and God is giving me so much Grace and His mercies are New every morning I thank Him and I know I will move past all of my lonliness. Love Jessica |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Oct 11, 2007 6:21:54 GMT -5
The situation is truly what you (general) make of it. If you (general) want to feel sorry for yourself, that is the way that you will feel. If you (general) want to be depressed, you (general) will be. However, if you (general) truly want to make the most out of this life then one would find out what God would have them to do right now and as Nike says, "just do it!"
Yes, stillfocused, I go out to eat by myself. I will go to the movies alone. I don't have a problem with being alone though I must admit it took me awhile to get there. I enjoy being "Monica" and there is nobody out there who could be a better "me". Right now being single allows me to really get involved with what God is calling me to do. Paul was right when he wrote that a single woman can keep her mind on the things of the Lord (my paraphrase). I am not knocking marriage, because I do have books that I read on marriage. I also speak to my mentor alot about marriage (she has been married 21 years). I've also started cooking more and thinking more how I believe a wife should think.
But while I am single............................WATCH OUT! LOL
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Post by bumble118 on Oct 11, 2007 7:03:37 GMT -5
I do the same thing, I go to the movies by myself, and go out to dinner by myself as well which is sometimes is not really all that fun cause you can't really make conversations with yourself if you Do there is something seriously wrong with ya LOL!!! Just kiddin.....
Thanks for sharing your testimony aswsou
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Post by giantsdodie on Oct 11, 2007 8:10:28 GMT -5
I would say this. Part of the problem is that in society and particularly in America women have the concept of marriage and family drilled into their head from small children. Women get gifts like baby dolls, and ez bake ovens. They are taught to be homemakers from a young age. So by the time a woman reaches a certain age they get questions like...
How many children do you have...
Why arent you married...
This can make someone feel insecure as if something is wrong with them.
I believe single people must realize that singleness is not a curse, disease, or something to be rid of. Singleness is the NATURAL state of man. We are all born single. None of us are born married.
The reality is that most of us had relationships and particulaly sexual relationships outside of God's covenant of marriage. That causes problems. So when we get saved and now we are no longer supposed to fornicate it creates an issue. Now we have problem with our " singleness " because we want everything that goes on in a intimate sexual relationship without the sex. We want the closeness, the unity, the intimacy, the feel good feeling, but we will try to avoid the sex because we know thats a sin ( and in all honesty sometimes we dont avoid the sex, we fall right up in it )
You are not an incomplete person because you are single and there is nothing wrong with you because you are single. Marriage is a TREMENDOUS challenge.. OMG some single people have absolutely NO idea how very challenging marriage is. Some days I have sat here and said.. MAN when I was single I didnt have to deal with this crap....
The key to life is as the Apsotle Paul stated
Philippians 4:11-13
11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.
13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me
The problem as I see it is that too many single saints dont prepare for anything else. They get stuck at the " waiting on a spouse " position.
See a lot of the time we think we are waiting on GOD.. But its really GOD waiting on you...
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Post by Beulah5 on Oct 11, 2007 11:18:21 GMT -5
Contentment is a reality for the believer. It really does exist. I dont have any problems when i am by myself  Do we really know what the will of God is for our life? If so we will not fret and worry like we do. I know the lord has not got marriage for me right now if not ever. How do i know cause: He has never spoken to me in all my years of being saved about a husband and i never particularly wanted one so we matched. However after some people asked me i did go to Him and asked and He simply told me i was not to concern myself with that at present. That settled it for me-God does speak and He speaketh expressly about our lives down to the little details. Now do we hear Him? or do we actually want to hear what He has to say? Keep preaching Giants and ASWSOY |
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 11, 2007 13:59:21 GMT -5
GDD..thanks !!
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