Is God waiting on You???

[Jasmine]

kitty said:

Hi jasmine,

None of my friends are seeing married men... I didn't mean to imply that in my original post. What I should have said was that they are dating men that emotionally unavailable... Those that seem to be dragging their feet about commitment, those that seem to give them mixed signals about being in a relationship.

I'm not talking about women that are involved with having a dark heart... But women that have a heart for God... many of them are mature spiritually in other areas of their lives...

I believe that what God was showing me was that for each person that I in particular was praying about there was a distinct reason that they had not married yet.

God was showing me one of the people was involved in sin (sex outside of marriage) But that's not the case with the others...

For others it is a fear of rejection... a lack of trust... a resistance to even being open to receiving a relationship... Such as my friend that kept on closing out matches on eharmony...

Kitty

ok. Yea from the read, I thought that was being implied. But you know what... just excuse my post all together. I normally stay out of these topics due to the fact that...the answers seem so obvious to me, and i tend to post according to how i see things. soo..im going to step back on this one.. lol

[Jasmine]

giantsdodie said:

Ok,

I have talked to and ministered to many single men and women of God over the years and I have seen many people women in particular dealing with the issue of singleness.

I think the first problem is that folks treat singleness as a curse. Singleness is something that should be embraced and enjoyed. Its the time of your life to get things together, to gather focus, to spend time with the Lord, to receive vision, instrcution and purpose.

The other issue I see is people who are TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY UNPREPARED for marriage expecting GOD to marry them. First off many of them do not have the level of relationship with GOD they need to have, dont trust HIM, have far too many issues and fears that they have not dealt with. There are mindsets and belief systems that needs renewing regarding men. spouses, and marriage. They have NO IDEA what marriage is.. Ask em.. They will give you this answer.. marriage is a ministry.. THEN ask them.. ok.. What is a ministry... what specific areas are YOU called to minister too.. What anointing has GOD placed in your life that will be a blessing to YOUR spouse.. ( and I aint talking about sex. cooking and cleaning ).. You know what I get most times.. BLANK STARES... and YET your waiting on God...

Covenant.. whats that ??
Understanding your role as a wife??? Huh. what ?? Im cute and I make good lasagna...
Understanding your husbands role?? Pay bills and make me feel good about me..

I mean I have talked to so many people that arent even REMOTELY prepared... YET they think having a desire makes them qualified...

Waiting on the Lord.. my answer.. NO they arent. You cant wait wavering in faith.. unprepared.. loving God one miniute.. frustrated with Him the next cause you aint got your man yet.. that is NOT waiting... You know what we call that in our church... we call that Waiting to Wait...

What does that mean..

Waiting doesnt count until you are waiting in faith.. patiently.. serving and loving GOD in the process... until you are at that point you are NOT waiting... You are actually DELAYING the process of waiting...

Im not even going to go into all the presumptuous dating, and false starts we get ourselves involved in and then get mad at GOD when that aint the one..

I wanna get married.. OK.. Do you have a vision from God for your marriage.. 95% say NO... They have a vision of a wedding day.. what kind of dress they want.. etc etc.. goody.. the wedding lasts a DAY... here is a hint the minute the preacher says I pronounce you man and wife.. the wedding is OVER !!!!! Now the marriage begins... and WITHOUT A VISION the people perish... Wonder why so many marriages perish.. NO VISION...

And these are things God will tell you BEFORE you are married if you take the time to seek HIM and HIS will...

But the reality I have found.. is most of us dont... we just want what we want when we want it and expect GOD to provide it...

The scripture says a man that finds a WIFE finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord..

When I found my wife she was a WIFE.. she just wasnt married yet... She was PREPARED to be a wife.. She had an understanding of COVENANT.. SHe had an understand of KINGDOM.. SHe had a RELATIONSHIP with the Lord. She had VISION...

When we got married I didnt have a job. I was out of work.. she was out of work.. Yet GOD said.. GO AHEAD Ill provide.. you know what we did.w e stepped out in faith.. We didnt have money for a dress.. a place... a cake.. NOTHING...

Yet she stood up one Sunday in her church and asked for prayer and announced our wedding date...

and IMMEDIATELY...

One woman stood up and said.. Ill pay for your dress..
Another stood up and said I will pay for your flowers...
Another stood up and said I will pay for the cake...

God provided for EVERYTHING in our wedding supernaturally blessing us.. I didnt even have the money to get TO the wedding.. but GOD opened a door for finances....

We had a VISION.. and we knew.. Its GOD's vision so HE is responsible to provide for it !!!!

God had me send my wife my vision plan for a business GOD have me.. This is when I had NO job.. She looked at it.. She gave it to her father to look over.. her father gave it to the financial person at his job who told him.. This plan is so sound it CANT fail... by the time the man explained it to her father he told her.. if I had the money I would invest in it right now... SHE then in turn gave it to HER intercessors to have them PRAY over it...

We have had chalenges in our marriage. We have fought.. We have argued.. My wife still doesnt work.. she is a full time student. somehow ( and dont ask me how I cant figure it out myself.. ) the same money I made which could barely take care of one person.. is taking care of TWO people... We have had challenges... but YET through it all because we know GOD's vsion and plan for us we dont quit... we dont give up...

You know why we aint raptured yet... THE BRIDE AINT READY....

You know why some folks is still single... THE BRIDE AINT READY YET !!!!


You need to be PREPARED for marriage..

thats it right there!

[kitty]

Hey Jasmine...

Don't step back... I think many of us saints can always benefit from those who are married point's of view. Any thought you have are welcomed...

Kitty

[Jasmine]

honestly, its really not my area. I can and will be an encouragement, but I know my limits.

[chosen]

I do think it is good for single people to get counsel from the married people especially, they have experienced the best of both worlds singlehood and now marriage.


Jessie

[stillfocused]

Alright..Giants !! You have never lied !! And what you have spoken is the truth !

[chosen]

giantsdodie said:

Ok,

I have talked to and ministered to many single men and women of God over the years and I have seen many people women in particular dealing with the issue of singleness.

I think the first problem is that folks treat singleness as a curse. Singleness is something that should be embraced and enjoyed. Its the time of your life to get things together, to gather focus, to spend time with the Lord, to receive vision, instrcution and purpose.

The other issue I see is people who are TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY UNPREPARED for marriage expecting GOD to marry them. First off many of them do not have the level of relationship with GOD they need to have, dont trust HIM, have far too many issues and fears that they have not dealt with. There are mindsets and belief systems that needs renewing regarding men. spouses, and marriage. They have NO IDEA what marriage is.. Ask em.. They will give you this answer.. marriage is a ministry.. THEN ask them.. ok.. What is a ministry... what specific areas are YOU called to minister too.. What anointing has GOD placed in your life that will be a blessing to YOUR spouse.. ( and I aint talking about sex. cooking and cleaning ).. You know what I get most times.. BLANK STARES... and YET your waiting on God...

Covenant.. whats that ??
Understanding your role as a wife??? Huh. what ?? Im cute and I make good lasagna...
Understanding your husbands role?? Pay bills and make me feel good about me..

I mean I have talked to so many people that arent even REMOTELY prepared... YET they think having a desire makes them qualified...

Waiting on the Lord.. my answer.. NO they arent. You cant wait wavering in faith.. unprepared.. loving God one miniute.. frustrated with Him the next cause you aint got your man yet.. that is NOT waiting... You know what we call that in our church... we call that Waiting to Wait...

What does that mean..

Waiting doesnt count until you are waiting in faith.. patiently.. serving and loving GOD in the process... until you are at that point you are NOT waiting... You are actually DELAYING the process of waiting...

Im not even going to go into all the presumptuous dating, and false starts we get ourselves involved in and then get mad at GOD when that aint the one..

I wanna get married.. OK.. Do you have a vision from God for your marriage.. 95% say NO... They have a vision of a wedding day.. what kind of dress they want.. etc etc.. goody.. the wedding lasts a DAY... here is a hint the minute the preacher says I pronounce you man and wife.. the wedding is OVER !!!!! Now the marriage begins... and WITHOUT A VISION the people perish... Wonder why so many marriages perish.. NO VISION...

And these are things God will tell you BEFORE you are married if you take the time to seek HIM and HIS will...

But the reality I have found.. is most of us dont... we just want what we want when we want it and expect GOD to provide it...

The scripture says a man that finds a WIFE finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord..

When I found my wife she was a WIFE.. she just wasnt married yet... She was PREPARED to be a wife.. She had an understanding of COVENANT.. SHe had an understand of KINGDOM.. SHe had a RELATIONSHIP with the Lord. She had VISION...

When we got married I didnt have a job. I was out of work.. she was out of work.. Yet GOD said.. GO AHEAD Ill provide.. you know what we did.w e stepped out in faith.. We didnt have money for a dress.. a place... a cake.. NOTHING...

Yet she stood up one Sunday in her church and asked for prayer and announced our wedding date...

and IMMEDIATELY...

One woman stood up and said.. Ill pay for your dress..
Another stood up and said I will pay for your flowers...
Another stood up and said I will pay for the cake...

God provided for EVERYTHING in our wedding supernaturally blessing us.. I didnt even have the money to get TO the wedding.. but GOD opened a door for finances....

We had a VISION.. and we knew.. Its GOD's vision so HE is responsible to provide for it !!!!

God had me send my wife my vision plan for a business GOD have me.. This is when I had NO job.. She looked at it.. She gave it to her father to look over.. her father gave it to the financial person at his job who told him.. This plan is so sound it CANT fail... by the time the man explained it to her father he told her.. if I had the money I would invest in it right now... SHE then in turn gave it to HER intercessors to have them PRAY over it...

We have had chalenges in our marriage. We have fought.. We have argued.. My wife still doesnt work.. she is a full time student. somehow ( and dont ask me how I cant figure it out myself.. ) the same money I made which could barely take care of one person.. is taking care of TWO people... We have had challenges... but YET through it all because we know GOD's vsion and plan for us we dont quit... we dont give up...

You know why we aint raptured yet... THE BRIDE AINT READY....

You know why some folks is still single... THE BRIDE AINT READY YET !!!!


You need to be PREPARED for marriage..

That is so true Giants, I had a friend I grew up with got married a couple years back God Blessed her so much she ended up with like 3 honey moons that the saints blessed her with. I thought that was really awesome how God blessed her. Her wedding was very beautiful She got married at Bishop Ronald Youngs Church in Philli I know Elder Beck might know him He is a awesome man of God and He did the officiating of the ceremony.


Love
Jessie

[chosen]

I have a question. So what are some steps we can take to prepare ourselves for are Help Mates. ;D





Jessica

[giantsdodie]

chosen said:

I have a question. So what are some steps we can take to prepare ourselves for are Help Mates. ;D





Jessica

The first thing you can do is get married to Jesus. WHat do I mean when I say that. I mean that your primary most important relationship in your life is your relationship with the Lord. Not your relationship to a church.. or an organization.. or your pastor.. to Jesus Himself... Be faithful and committed to HIM first.

Learn what it means to actually be a bride. Study the scriptures, then implement. Dont just read Proverbs 31, BE Propverbs 31. Read what the Bible has to say about marriage and covenant and then practice that by maintaining and improving your covenant towards God.

Die to self. Marriage is never about you. Marriage is about the other person. It is a 365/24-7 MINISTRY to another person. The Word minister means to serve.. Drop all these silly ideas about someone being their for you and making you feel better about you..

Learn to sow... You only reap what you sow. Too many people come into marriage with unrealistic expectations... They want the moon and the stars yet they will guard their own heart at all costs.. Then they get mad when they get nothing. You only reap what you sow. You want love.. Sow it. You want understanding.. sow it..

Get God's vision for your life. Our Asst Pastor teaches something to the single women.. She says if a man shows up who doesnt line up with the vision GOD gave you for your life.. THAT AINT HIM.. You dont even havet o pray about that one... and start WALKING in the Vision where GOD give you the permission and grace to do so !!!

Get yourself togther.. Get in shape if you need to get in shape. WOrk on repairing your credit.. become a better budgeter.. etc etc..

Thats a start...