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Post by stillfocused on Apr 23, 2007 17:16:29 GMT -5
Is it possible to forgive someone of act; and forget it ?!!
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 23, 2007 18:26:18 GMT -5
yes
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Post by krazeeboi on Apr 24, 2007 3:43:20 GMT -5
I don't think we should take "forget" here literally. It really means that if I forgive you, I'm not going to hold what you did to me against you in the future. That doesn't mean that if some pervert molests my child that I should leave my child in the room with him/her because I "forgave and forgot." That's stupid. Forgiving someone also means learning from the event in question.
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Post by livinganewlife on Apr 24, 2007 10:46:24 GMT -5
IMO one should never forget, because for some forgetting a past mistake will cost a repeat mistake.....
I can forgive you and not wallow in the feelings of unforgiving but to forget an act not always possible........
That's just like with sin, we are forgiven of our sins but yet there are sometimes consequences we must endure because of our actions......
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Post by stillfocused on Apr 24, 2007 11:41:19 GMT -5
In some instances some things cannot be forgotten..and that's understandable. Yet, I personally believe that once forgiven there are some things that need to be forgotten..so how can that be done ?
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Post by livinganewlife on Apr 24, 2007 14:39:42 GMT -5
In some instances some things cannot be forgotten..and that's understandable. Yet, I personally believe that once forgiven there are some things that need to be forgotten..so how can that be done ? No one can possibly say what the parameters are in terms of forgetting an act..... Someone may steal a dollar from me at work and I can forgive them, but at the same time that may have been my last dollar until payday which i left out on the desk at work...... So the lesson learned is to forgive the perpetrator but learn to lock up my money at work. The act is small when looking at the amount of money but the impact was great because it was my last dollar until Friday..... Hope that makes sense...... |
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Post by Beck on Apr 26, 2007 4:40:23 GMT -5
Im a firm believer in forgiving and remembering. not holding things against you, but true forgiveness doesnt mean i can sweep what you did under the rub as if it never happened. I should be able to recall the offense and still love you and pray for you without any problem.
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Post by Jasmine on Apr 27, 2007 19:01:43 GMT -5
Amen Beck.
In my own life, I have been delt with a very harsh blow. I have experienced some things that I have forgiven, but i won't ever forget.
How can I forget?
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Post by nina2 on Apr 28, 2007 15:55:32 GMT -5
We are not built to forget and we were created with the ability to remember.
We are not told to forget in the Bible, we are commanded to forgive.
Maybe there is a link between what we call forgetting and healing.
Maybe there is a process in forgiveness which allows greater levels of healing and can help reach the point of forgetting, in the sense that our deeper self, our heart, is no longer troubled by the thought of it?
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Post by giantsdodie on Apr 30, 2007 14:07:58 GMT -5
Question and I realize this is a touchy subject for many people, does God hold our past against us ? Once we repent does he continue to remember what we did ??
Do we know how to forgive ourselves?
We have to reach a place in our fogriveness while we might remember what was done, but we do not hold it against the person, where we can love them and embrace them like the offense never happened. Where we will secretly in our hearts say we forgive them but yet over analyze them and have them jumping through " prove me " hoops time and time and time again.
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Post by Jasmine on Apr 30, 2007 18:25:46 GMT -5
exactly, and i think that is what is misunderstood regarding the concept, forgiving, but not forgetting.
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Post by stillfocused on Apr 30, 2007 23:40:59 GMT -5
Giants..you hit on something. Because many times we say we forgive someone..still the offense of what happened is still locked away behind a door; only we have the key to..when the "sting" of the offense is no longer there the process of healing has truly began..yet, how many of us truly get to that point ?
Nina..great questions..I believe at that point healing has begun and one can move on from the offense.
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