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Post by Jasmine on Apr 8, 2008 15:13:10 GMT -5
I believe one of the real problem with "Offenses" is that. We feel we have the right to hold on to them. This person wronged me, so its my right to be angry. I don't need to forgive them until they apologize. And thats where the "offense" turns into wounds, then bitterness and hatred has taken root. This is true. I don't think people want to walk around in offense, but because they have built walls to protect themselves from being hurt by others, it justs there. That mentality says..I'll never be hurt again, I'll cut them loose before they have a chance to hurt me. etc...etc.. So true. Offense can cause us to miss out on opportunities and the appointed season of the Lord if we're not careful (see this ties in with "Missing God's Timing" post). Our attempt to guard from hurt can also be out barrier to miss what may beneficial for our lives. Absolutely sis..absolutely! |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 8, 2008 16:37:31 GMT -5
I believe you conveyed it pretty well. I wasn't correcting you I was agreeing with you and adding to the point that you already made. (maybe I should not have used the quote feature.) I agree with you as well but as I was reading what you wrote, some more stuff jumped out at me to add to more effectively convey in this post. I will share in a bit though. I guess where I'm going (to keep in mind) is: Is there a difference between "being offended" and "walking in offense?" IMO, being offended is actually "being real" about how you feel in that moment but that can occur without walking in offense which I believe is clinging to the offense, which in turn harbors bitterness, resentment, anger, unforgiveness, etc. I think the cause of "being offended" does not always lie in the person offended. People can truly hurt you. However, walking in offense does lie within the person offended (as you stated ASWSY). I believe "to walk" connotes a lifestyle. I never want to live a lifestyle of offense toward others. Amen! |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 9, 2008 6:26:45 GMT -5
If we did a poll, people are offended by a vast numerous things, but its the "WHO" which causes folks to remain in an offended state. If someone who I didn't know, or didn't particularly care about said something about me..I wouldn't be AS offended, if it was somebody who I knew, and had established a relationship with. That is good sis and also very true! On page 6 of John Bevere's book he states, "The closer the relationship, the more severe the offense." My director at my job and I have a pretty good releationship. We talk about a lot of things concerning the job as well as personal issues. However, I felt that after knowing me for 2 years (at that time - I have been there 3 years now) she should know me and my work ethic. However, I had someone complain about me and it was like she immediately took their side (or so I thought). See my expectation of her was not met and therefore I became deeply offended. I even said back then, "I could see if she didn't KNOW me but she KNOWS me, we have a good relationship." I also knew that had it been any other manager I would not have allowed it to bother me as much. Many times how the offense bothers us has to do with the relationship we have with the offender but also our expectations based on our relationship with the offender. We expect things from people without informing the person of that expectation. When they do not meet that expectation, then we become offended - and if we don't forgive then the offense will bear fruit of bitterness, anger, strife and resentment. All of which could have been avoided had you communicated your expectation and allowed the person to tell you if they were able to meet that expectation. |
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Post by Beulah5 on Apr 9, 2008 15:52:23 GMT -5
Brilliant post Sister Aswsoy and now please if you dont mind can you get that cd to me before i get offended  ;D  |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 9, 2008 16:03:31 GMT -5
Brilliant post Sister Aswsoy and now please if you dont mind can you get that cd to me before i get offended ;D ROFL - Mailing this weekend! |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 23, 2008 12:31:49 GMT -5
BUMP
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Post by Beulah5 on Apr 23, 2008 15:12:14 GMT -5
are u offended?
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Apr 23, 2008 16:24:26 GMT -5
yep
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Post by Jasmine on May 1, 2008 14:42:24 GMT -5
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;D 