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Post by Beck on Aug 29, 2007 10:51:42 GMT -5
This is from myspace.com.. I got a message from her asking for prayer, so I decided to pass it on to you all since we are all in the spirit of prayer because of recent events..
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In recent light of everything that is going on with the Bynums-Weeks and the Whites, I know some of us felt a little shock and some may have even felt betrayed because of thinking that their marriages were blissful and now this. I can't help but wonder if reaching out to the family and telling people without telling people their business, that they were facing things and really needed the prayers of the saints, would have helped the avoidance of what they are going through now. I am a strong believer that it is always easier to prevent illness then to cure it. Who knows, if we would have known that there were problems in the beginning and we would have prayed (even though we should pray anyway) how our prayers might have kept the presence of evil out of their lives. But we are so concerned with our reputation that we sometimes, even without knowing it, portray a perfect life, so people sometimes tend to not pray because they are too busy praying for the obvious.
So with that being said................................
I NEED YOUR PRAYERS. MY OWN MARRIAGE IS IN TROUBLE. I KNOW YOU GUYS ALL SAW THE 10TH YEAR ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION ON MYSPACE, AND EVERYTHING WAS COOL THEN, HOWEVER, SINCE THEN, IT HAS BEEN A STRUGGLE. I HAD STARTED SUFFERING WITH SUICIDAL DEPRESSION. I WANTED TO KILL MYSELF. I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE. MY SELF ESTEEM PLUNGED. I FELT LIKE LEAVING HIM AND MY KIDS AND NEEEEEEEEEEEVER COMING BACK. I WONT' GO INTO THE DETAILS BUT GUYS I NEED YOUR PRAYERS. WHEN YOU ARE FACED WITH CHALLENGING TIMES IN YOUR MARRIAGE, IT MAKES YOU WANT TO GO BACK TO THE OLD YOU. AND I HAD STARTED STRUGGLING WITH THAT VERY THING. AS A MATTER OF FACT, I AM STRUGGLING WITH THAT NOW AND APART OF ME WANTS TO BE LIKE "I DON'T CARE." BUT I DO CARE. EVERYTIME I GET AN EMAIL OR APPROACHED ON THE ROAD BY A COUPLE THAT SAYS MY TESTIMONY SAVED THEIR MARRIAGE, IT REMINDS ME THAT MY MARRIAGE SURVIVING MEANS THE LIFE OF SOMEONE ELSE'S MARRIAGE. I AM REALLY TRYING GUYS. AND FOR THOSE THAT ARE SO SUPER SPIRITUAL AND THINK THAT I SHOULDN'T BE GOING THROUGH THIS BECAUSE I AM A BELIEVER, JUST KEEP LIVING.
SCRIPTURE SAYS, MANY ARE THE AFFLICTIONS OF THE RIGHTEOUS, BUT THE LORD SHALL DELIVER THEM OUT OF THEM ALLLLLLLLLLLLL!!
PLEASE PRAY FOR LT, LISA, DIAMOND AND JOSHUA MCCLENDON.
WE NEED YOUR PRAYERS!! WE DON'T WANT TO BE ANOTHER STATISTIC IN THE CHURCH.
PEACE
LISA MCCLENDON
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 29, 2007 11:28:10 GMT -5
The enemy is attacking marriages, and Lisa Mcclendon even wrote a song about it "stuck with each other". I listened to that song just about every day when I was in trouble, to remind myself that it was enemy, spiritual wickedness in high places.
My marriage also has been accussed before God and tested, and I too felt the same things that she has felt. I had the attitude that I didn't care, when in fact I did.
You know at first I was sorely ashamed of the things that I experienced, and what I tried to do to myself, BUT I thank God for removing the guilt and shame, because I can discuss it now.
My marriage has been healed, and I am allowing the healing process to continue to flow through me. Is it hard, heck yea, but now more than ever, I realize that the enemy is not playing. I also realize that everything happens for a reason, and through my own experience my character has changed. Growth has been attained, and some secret hidden things inside of me have been brought to light.
For the good.
I started praying for marriages when people that I loved started being attacked in their own marriages. I didn't know that soon after my very own marriage would experience a crushing blow.
No one knew what I was experiencing until I posted something on klaypage, and myspace sharing what I was feeling at that time. I did not post that I tried to take my own life, but I did attempt it.
All I could see was numbing the pain that I was experiencing. Before I went into my closet, I asked God, don't you see what's happening to me, Don't you see the pain Im going through.
I could go on, but the most important thing is that. I asked forgiveness, for the thought, the attempt, and I began to do what I should and knew to do all along. Praise God for my situations, circumstance, and my life. and Believe that in the end it would all work out for my good.
It has. It is, and its stronger than ever. I don't know why tragedy's, trials, and tribulations, brings individuals closer and us as God's people closer to him. But it does.
I am praying, I have been there, I know what it feels like, and I will be sending her a response today.
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Post by keita on Aug 29, 2007 11:34:23 GMT -5
OH MY LORD JESUS! The enemy is attacking marriages... WHY FATHER? WHY? |
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Post by Beulah5 on Aug 29, 2007 11:51:09 GMT -5
Father in the name of Jesus we just lift up all these marriages before you. Lord we pray that you will reach out to these people as individuals and as a couple and that you will cause your Spirit to minister healing, deliverance and forgiveness. Lord without you we are nothing and can do nothing but we know that because you died every blessing is available through the blood of your son Jesus Christ and so Lord we speak peace into all these situations. We pray that your Spirit will do the necessary refining and bring all these individuals and also all our brothers and sisters whether in ministry or not but who are struggling in their marriages to a place of knowing that in you is their strength, their hope and their refuge and we pray that you give them a break through on every side. Lord Jesus we rejoice because we know that all power belongs to you-and that whoever touches us touches the apple of your eye and so arise o lord and show urself strong and mighty. You have never once failed us Jesus and may your name be glorified in the midst of all of this. Amen  |
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 29, 2007 12:36:16 GMT -5
"STUCK"
Lisa McClendon
Verse 1:
The enemy wants to break up our happy family
But we’ll be okay
We just got to believe
God joined us together to fulfill destiny
Nothing can get in the way
If we stand and agree
Verse 2
It’s obvious to me
That there’s a war going on
But you’re not my enemy
The one that you love the most
Could also hurt you the most
But we’re beyond affection
This is a divine connection
Chorus:
Sometimes I get frustrated with you
Sometimes you get frustrated with me
But no matter how hard it may get
We’re stuck with each other
Might as well get over it
See there’s a war going on
You’re not my enemy
Hey cause I got your back
You got my back for me
And no matter what happens
That’s how we’re gonna be
You and me together for eternity
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Post by giantsdodie on Aug 29, 2007 13:31:01 GMT -5
OH MY LORD JESUS! The enemy is attacking marriages... WHY FATHER? WHY? One of the first attacks by the enemy was against the family. There was one family in the earth at the time. Adam and Eve, and the enemy through temptation got them to yield to sin to disobey God's law which caused them to fall from grace and changed their relationship to GOD and between themselves. Then he attacked the siblings.Sin now being in the earth and a part of mans fallen state murder entered the heart of Cain and he slew Abel. Same old tactics.. Why... Strong Christian Families build strong Christian churches which in turn build Strong Christian Communties which make it harder for the enemy to operate. |
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Post by krazeeboi on Aug 29, 2007 13:48:57 GMT -5
OK, I ain't even gettin' married. Y'all goin' through too much, and I go through enough by myself as it is...why drag somebody else into it?
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Post by livinganewlife on Aug 29, 2007 14:16:06 GMT -5
OK, I ain't even gettin' married. Y'all goin' through too much, and I go through enough by myself as it is...why drag somebody else into it? KB i don't know if you are kidding or what......but those were my sentiments exactly before I got married and people weren't nearly going through all of the situations that are popping off now.......but to me when i was single marriage was never that appealing....... married (sisters) always looked so tired and beaten down and the men looked better and no one i talked to was happy everyone was wishing they were single......it was so conflicting at one point for me..... if i was single now and knew of the stories that i know of (excluding Paula and Bynum) i don't think i would get married and Lord knows i wouldn't have married a preacher..... this is really sad, and i know it is hard for us (saints) to hold folks accountable without exercising grace....but there must come a time when all of this must stop and we (general) have to look at how our lives are affecting others especially those who are coming up behind us...... even when i wasn't saved i was very conscious and aware of my actions because i knew that alot of the little girls in my neighborhood and in my church looked up to me and i did not want to be a bad example to them....even though i was living a dual lifestyle.....i never brought my business to the streets or to the church...... when i was single you saw me alone attending functions i didn't have a different date on my arm to every function... i rolled solo.... when my BF became a well known street hustler...we didn't go anywhere together because i did not want those young girls to think that was the life and that it was ok to be with a street hustler....... now if i am in my sin and have that much regard for my reputation what about those of us who are in ministry and know people are watching us and we mentors and living epistles read of men.... if i am going to host a mentoring conference then i need to really be careful at how i am perceived to others.....not saying we are perfect and that no one falls but there comes a time when we need to watch ourselves and walk circumspect or put down the mantle until God gives you delivierance....... |
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Post by Nikkol on Aug 29, 2007 14:45:25 GMT -5
OH MY LORD JESUS! The enemy is attacking marriages... WHY FATHER? WHY? There's power in agreement. One can chase 1000; two can chase 10000 |
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Post by keita on Aug 29, 2007 14:53:36 GMT -5
OH MY LORD JESUS!The enemy is attacking marriages...
WHY? One of the first attacks by the enemy was against the family. There was one family in the earth at the time. Adam and Eve, and the enemy through temptation got them to yield to sin to disobey God's law which caused them to fall from grace and changed their relationship to GOD and between themselves.
Then he attacked the siblings.Sin now being in the earth and a part of mans fallen state murder entered the heart of Cain and he slew Abel.
Same old tactics..
Why...
There's power in agreement. One can chase 1000; two can chase 10000 Bro Giants and sis Nikkol, when I wrote that post, it was just me talking to God and maybe I should have kept that one in my "prayer closet".  I do understand that Satan is, and exactly why it would and will be, coming against the institution of marriage and therefore (especially Christian) marriages. But since I am fully persuaded that Satan can only do what God permits, I'm now much more, and frankly, only concerned with hearing/discerning why God is allowing it, and praying accordingly. Especially in light of this truth bro giants wrote: |
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Post by krazeeboi on Aug 30, 2007 0:10:37 GMT -5
LANL, you said a mouthful there, really.
But seriously, marriage is on the decline in America. For the first time in our history, traditional nuclear families are in the minority when compared with single households or households headed by single parents. And is it any wonder why? Even my parents are experiencing tension in their marriage (after 27 years). I bought them a nice framed thingey (kinda like a card, but more like a plaque) for their anniversary about 2 years back, and my mom never hung it up. According to my sister, she said, "What for? The words on it aren't true for us anymore." I seriously thought about just having an arrangement with a young lady that is wifey material, but we just decide to have a child together without the marriage. Even a sister I know that's a preacher said that's the route she might take. She said she can handle being sat down and silenced for a year, LOL.
Seriously though, it's a shame. I don't know what I'll do. But I've got a little time to figure some stuff out.
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Post by Beck on Aug 30, 2007 9:31:05 GMT -5
LANL, you said a mouthful there, really. But seriously, marriage is on the decline in America. For the first time in our history, traditional nuclear families are in the minority when compared with single households or households headed by single parents. And is it any wonder why? Even my parents are experiencing tension in their marriage (after 27 years). I bought them a nice framed thingey (kinda like a card, but more like a plaque) for their anniversary about 2 years back, and my mom never hung it up. According to my sister, she said, "What for? The words on it aren't true for us anymore." [glow=red,2,300]I seriously thought about just having an arrangement with a young lady that is wifey material, but we just decide to have a child together without the marriage. Even a sister I know that's a preacher said that's the route she might take. She said she can handle being sat down and silenced for a year, LOL[/glow]. Seriously though, it's a shame. I don't know what I'll do. But I've got a little time to figure some stuff out. Dude you cant be serious... |
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Post by Jasmine on Aug 30, 2007 11:11:36 GMT -5
LANL, you said a mouthful there, really. But seriously, marriage is on the decline in America. For the first time in our history, traditional nuclear families are in the minority when compared with single households or households headed by single parents. And is it any wonder why? Even my parents are experiencing tension in their marriage (after 27 years). I bought them a nice framed thingey (kinda like a card, but more like a plaque) for their anniversary about 2 years back, and my mom never hung it up. According to my sister, she said, "What for? The words on it aren't true for us anymore." I seriously thought about just having an arrangement with a young lady that is wifey material, but we just decide to have a child together without the marriage. Even a sister I know that's a preacher said that's the route she might take. She said she can handle being sat down and silenced for a year, LOL. Seriously though, it's a shame. I don't know what I'll do. But I've got a little time to figure some stuff out. I didn't respond to your initial post but I will now. I really want to encourage you to do it right. God's way. When I got married I was young, and fresh out of high school. I didn't know the right way to do things, I didn't even have the best example of a marriage to look at, so it took some time to learn how to do things as a wife. Did I mess up? Absolutely, but those experiences have made me who I am today. Did I wait on God, nope. Do i believe I married the right man. Absolutely, even after what I have experienced. He's still the one! I LOVE my husband with every fiber in me, and I know that he Loves me with every fiber in him. We have conquered some MAJOR storms in our life, and even while some of them were things we caused by acting upon our flesh, we grew past it, and moved and loved each other harder. Marriages do not come with out trials and tribulations, and anyone who says that their marriage is absolutely and always peachy king, is a Lie!! I'd question it in a heart beat. Matter of fact thats one relationship, I'd keep mines far from. Marriages go through dry spells, just like any other relationships. Their are days when you want to be left alone, and on your own, and at the same time, you want to be near. Man, I can't even begin to describe the beautifulness of being married. There is nothing like it, and even with my recent experience, through it all, I love my husband and I would not trade him for any man. You will argue, play silent games with each other, unintentionally & intentionally hurt each other, be misunderstood, feel rejected at times, but the intimacy, hugs,kisses, smiles, laughing at silly things, understanding each other without saying a word, lovemaking, having kids, making up after the arguement, serious and deep discussions, and etc ALL outweight the small minor things that happen in a relationship. So don't give up on marriage. Yes, there is no hurt like being hurt by the one you love, BUT its not the end of the world. |
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Post by krazeeboi on Aug 30, 2007 12:08:06 GMT -5
Beck, I'm just being real man. I'm sure worse things have come across both our minds, after salvation at that.
Jasmine, that was encouraging. Too bad we don't get both sides of it as often as we do the bad sides.
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Post by Beck on Aug 30, 2007 13:43:08 GMT -5
Beck, I'm just being real man. I'm sure worse things have come across both our minds, after salvation at that. Jasmine, that was encouraging. Too bad we don't get both sides of it as often as we do the bad sides. I appreciate you being real, but one thing I have come to know is that you do have standards.. Look man.. just because other people screw up and make a mockery of God's requirements doesn't mean that its OK across the board. For that minister friend of yours to say that is really sad.. they need to be sat down period until their focus is back in the right place. Yeah we all sin, we all fall short.. but at least let's take God at his word.. Stay encouraged homie.. and keep that standard lifted. |
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