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Post by newmercies on Oct 18, 2007 1:21:29 GMT -5
Just pray for me Saints  |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Oct 18, 2007 6:19:11 GMT -5
Singleness is a gift.. Marriage is a gift.. I say simply find out which gift God has for you and enjoy it. I don't think singleness is a gift at all I think its a curse just like me not being able to have children sometimes I think the Lord really hates me  The bible says that singleness is a gift so to say that it is not is to go against the Word of God. No need to sugar coat anything here. You really need to spend some time in prayer sis and really seek the Lord on this issue. The doctor also told me that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant but I don't receive that to be TRUTH. I don't want my own children but it is not because the doctor told me that I could not. Also sis, the bible says that a double minded man should not think that he should receive anything from the Lord. In one post you are giving Him praises and in the next you are saying that the Lord hates you. Time for some repenting and seeking the Lord. |
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Post by giantsdodie on Oct 18, 2007 8:05:26 GMT -5
I don't think singleness is a gift at all I think its a curse just like me not being able to have children sometimes I think the Lord really hates me The bible says that singleness is a gift so to say that it is not is to go against the Word of God. No need to sugar coat anything here. You really need to spend some time in prayer sis and really seek the Lord on this issue. The doctor also told me that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant but I don't receive that to be TRUTH. I don't want my own children but it is not because the doctor told me that I could not. Also sis, the bible says that a double minded man should not think that he should receive anything from the Lord. In one post you are giving Him praises and in the next you are saying that the Lord hates you. Time for some repenting and seeking the Lord. BINGO |
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Post by kanyon on Oct 18, 2007 9:31:51 GMT -5
Just pray for me Saints My dear sister, you have received enough godly brotherly and sisterly advise for a family of 12. You are not going to get better advise anywhere. It seems to me that you need to make some choices, choices that might not feel good but are the right choices never the less. If there is any frustration here it is because you seem to ask for help but don't want the answers. I think you already know the answers you just need to act on them and rejoice for the choice and not feel bad because you couldn't have it both ways. To say 'pray for me is' a cop out. Our prayers will do no good unless you are willing to obey and not complain. I know this is not what you want to hear but its what you need. Do not walk any longer in the wilderness of fear and doubt but make a decision, cross over the river of death and rebirth and enter the promise land of faith and promise. |
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Post by Beck on Oct 30, 2007 10:24:16 GMT -5
Hmmm...Very interesting topic..
Singleness means to be separate, unique and whole. Would you like to stop being whole or unique as a person? Our problem comes in when we confuse singleness with being alone. and if we desire to be married just to rescue us from the worlds view of being single then we are trying to get married for the wrong reasons. Singleness is a Gift from God, and as a matter of fact Adam didn't even realize he was alone, nor did he have a problem with it. It was God who said.."is not good for man to be alone"..Singleness doesn't mean being alone... Singleness means being complete and whole, unique...set apart... I would even dare to say that until we grasp the concept of being single we are not ready for marriage.
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Post by kitty on Oct 30, 2007 12:25:03 GMT -5
hhhmmm.......
Right now I do enjoy being single... But I know it's not what I'm supposed to be for the rest of my life. I think people just fear the whole idea of singleness from the stance point of being forced into a bad situation...
I believe that God's will is good for us... I do acknowledge that God is soverign. But honestly I di meet a lot of people who complain about being single... But they don't seem to want to do what it will take for them to change their status...
For example... I know of about 2 women who I think are single because they refuse to move from the place that they are...
I do believe that some people may not be proactive enough...
Kitty
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Post by newmercies on Oct 30, 2007 17:35:01 GMT -5
hhhmmm....... Right now I do enjoy being single... But I know it's not what I'm supposed to be for the rest of my life. I think people just fear the whole idea of singleness from the stance point of being forced into a bad situation... I believe that God's will is good for us... I do acknowledge that God is soverign. But honestly I di meet a lot of people who complain about being single... But they don't seem to want to do what it will take for them to change their status... For example... I know of about 2 women who I think are single because they refuse to move from the place that they are... I do believe that some people may not be proactive enough... Kitty Very good point kitty. Thats what happend to a couple of young people in my church.... God moved them to another city and everything and thats where they found there spouses. God also has even revealed to me as well that my husband is not from this city that I am at right now. Im just waiting for the Lord to open the doors. Love Jessica |
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 30, 2007 18:00:42 GMT -5
Kitty..what do you believe single women need to do to change their status ?
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Post by newmercies on Oct 30, 2007 18:11:35 GMT -5
Kitty..what do you believe single women need to do to change their status ? another good question ;D like to know as well. |
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Post by Beck on Oct 31, 2007 5:59:08 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband?
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Post by kanyon on Oct 31, 2007 9:52:51 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband? You better run quick and duck Beck, Jessie and the girls are coming round the corner with a belt in their hand. ;D |
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 31, 2007 11:56:31 GMT -5
Okay..Beck !! You went all the way there  . Yeah.. I got my belt in my hand !! Seriously, though..not all single women are seeking God for a husband. I once had to be reminded that God does have a mate..because I was not seeking (begging) God to send to me a mate. Some single women are very content with their singleness..for me I have learned to embrace it. My life does not stop because I am not married..to be honest I have found out that it's some married folk who have a big problem with my singleness. Imagine being prayed for and hearing someone say..you need to walk in holiness and righteousness because they think that you're sexually active..projecting what they believe to be the truth because they can't believe anyone can live and walk in wholeness in that area. And I believe also that alot of singles spend time seeking God, looking for, and asking is "she the one or is "he the one" because of church dynamics that has a unspoken rule of acceptance that accepts you more readily if you're married; than if you're not. Just for the record..if you're really desperate to get married....men know !! That's both saved and unsaved !! |
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Post by kitty on Oct 31, 2007 12:28:31 GMT -5
Beck,
I seek God for a husband because I don't want to be single for the rest of my life. I want to experience all that life has to offer....
For quite some time life had a lot to offer me as a single woman. I didn't have any responsibilities as a wife or mother... so I focused on school and a career. I hung out with my friends went on trips and enjoyed my freedom...
I also needed grow in my maturity as an adult... I wasn't mature enough to be married in my 20's. Was mature enough to a parent until I reached my 30's. So now that I am ready I am looking for God to bless me with a husband.
Kitty
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Post by stillfocused on Oct 31, 2007 12:40:19 GMT -5
Kitty..good post !! Yes, many want to marry..and I do, too !! But, the primary focus isn't on looking for a mate. Kitty..made a good point..sometimes we are not ready to get married. And God has to prepare us to for that season in our lives.
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Post by kitty on Oct 31, 2007 12:46:13 GMT -5
Oh Yeah... To answer the question about things a woman should do to change their status...
I think there are some things that a person... anybody... not just a woman may need to do in order to change their status from married to single.
I think it can be varied from person to person.
Some of them are just common sense issues... Other are things that God may directly tell the person... For example... I know that a lot of women need to lose weight. I needed to do certain things in regards to my health.
one time I was call a rev. for prayer... Mind you this man had never seen me before, I had never talked to him before... As he was praying for me he told me that God was telling him that I had certain health issues. I was shocked because he was talking about things I hadn't told anyone... He then said... Being married requires energy and you lack energy. I hadn't told anyone that either... So he was telling me things that i need to do about my health.
My health has gotten better too... I had high blood pressure, it gone down, I used to be so tired that i couldn't make it through the day without a nap. Now I can go all day...
Now God didn't tell to move so you can get married... That was tied to my success in my career goals. God urging to move was completely separate from the marriage issue.
Kitty
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. Yeah.. I got my belt in my hand !! Seriously, though..not all single women are seeking God for a husband. I once had to be reminded that God does have a mate..because I was not seeking (begging) God to send to me a mate. Some single women are very content with their singleness..for me I have learned to embrace it. My life does not stop because I am not married..to be honest I have found out that it's some married folk who have a big problem with my singleness. Imagine being prayed for and hearing someone say..you need to walk in holiness and righteousness because they think that you're sexually active..projecting what they believe to be the truth because they can't believe anyone can live and walk in wholeness in that area. And I believe also that alot of singles spend time seeking God, looking for, and asking is "she the one or is "he the one" because of church dynamics that has a unspoken rule of acceptance that accepts you more readily if you're married; than if you're not. Just for the record..if you're really desperate to get married....men know !! That's both saved and unsaved !!