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Post by newmercies on Oct 31, 2007 14:38:28 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband? Hey Beck well why did you seek God for a wife? |
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Post by Nikkol on Oct 31, 2007 14:58:11 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband? Hey Beck well why did you seek God for a wife? I know that Beck wouldn't mind the scripture backup for his answer:  Pr 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. |
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Post by kanyon on Oct 31, 2007 16:23:49 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband? Hey Beck well why did you seek God for a wife? I told you,you better duck! ;D |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Oct 31, 2007 16:50:34 GMT -5
lol, no need to duck bro. beck - you aren't the one saying that you are content with your singleness yet looking for a mate.
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Post by newmercies on Oct 31, 2007 17:09:00 GMT -5
lol, no need to duck bro. beck - you aren't the one saying that you are content with your singleness yet looking for a mate. ROFLOL ;D No need to talk about me like im not here. ;D |
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Post by newmercies on Oct 31, 2007 17:15:54 GMT -5
question for you all... If you all really enjoy "singleness" how come you seek God for a husband? You better run quick and duck Beck, Jessie and the girls are coming round the corner with a belt in their hand. ;D LOL Where my gurls at ;D |
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Post by Beck on Nov 1, 2007 4:55:32 GMT -5
LOL@you all..Bro Kanyon I was just asking a question...I just hear so much about everyone being happy and content in being single,but on the flip I hear that they are seeking God for a mate. lady Nikkol...Thank you for the scriptural support for a obvious answer to sister Jessica's question. Let me just go a little further..Like I said before being single means being unique, whole, separate. Many people get being single confused with being alone. I believe that if a person who is truly single doesn't have a need to go out and seek to be married because of being single, Adam was truly single and whole and it was God's recommendation that he shouldn't be alone anymore..why??? because he truly content with being single. Genesis 2:18 did God say it is good for man to be single?  Nope he said its not good for man to be alone... God had no problem with mans separateness, his uniqueness, or his wholeness. As a matter of fact, Adam didn't know he was alone.. Gods statement was predicated on his own observation of the situation,and with his own wisdom. the implication is that Adam was so totally unique and so whole that he did not miss anybody. He was so "together", so separate, and so complete in himself that he did not even know he needed anyone else...having a companion was not Adams idea, but Gods. God didn't say that Adam wasn't whole so let me create a mate for him so he can be complete... I believe that Eve came to be a helper, who will be compatible,or suitable,like him, another being who will complement him and will be complemented BY him. My view is very simple... If you desire to be married and you are not content with being single, you will ONLY get married to fill the void that you have within yourself, and that will be the downfall of most marriages. Many people find a mate because they are tired of being alone..and only come to realize after many kids and years of feeling trapped that they married for the wrong reasons...the feeling or the need to have somone.."being alone"... Alone means isolated, solitary, exclusive... So lets look at Genesis 2:18 again... Its not good for man to be "exclusive, isolated, in a solitary state.... Marrying to fill those voids... will only cause issues... and you will look to your mate to fill them, if you cannot realize that you should have been single first. So before you marry...you have to find yourself and then accept who you are... How many of us look in the mirror in the morning and really hate what we see...Physically, emotionally, spiritually.. but yet we are praying for a husband or a wife??? Until we can find out who are are and accept who God has made us to be...we SHOULDN'T get married. As for Jessica's question... I didn't seek my wife out... if you knew my testimony..I actually rejected the thought of marrying her. I was used to dating older women, and my wife was 2.5 years younger than me. I was cool...and it was God that presented her to me, and I submitted to his will. When I knew that she was the one for me... We waited until I had some money in the bank, a career goal, and a place for her to stay before we married. I have been married for 9 years and we are both single in heart...and thats what makes our marriage so happy. She completes me because she is whole, unique, and separated, and I complete her for the same reasons... |
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Post by newmercies on Nov 1, 2007 5:08:58 GMT -5
awwwwwww that was so nice Beck thank you for sharing you testimony. I do agree with you. You know the last couple days at work have been kind of interesting cause a couple of the nurses shared with me what some of the things that they are going through with there Husbands and how hard it is. I was like gosh maybee I really don't want to get married  I don't want to go through what these ladies are going though. Then on the other hand I do want to have companion ship. Its not easy being single either. |
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Post by kitty on Nov 1, 2007 6:24:26 GMT -5
Hey Beck,
I'm a bit confused by your statement... If God said that it wasn't good for man to be alone.... And he brought Adam his wife Eve... Then wouldn't it be correct for people to marry because they don't want to be "alone". Wouldn't that be the bibical reason?
I personally don't want to be "alone" all my life either. I am getting up there in age and I would like to have children and a husband. So yes the biological clock is ticking for me most definitely. I would be foolish to deny that...
And I would even take it one step futher to say that it may be one of the reasons that God has pushed me into a season of realizing that it is time to get married... I believe God has been doing that by urging me to pull back from some of my career goals for this period of time in my life...
Other wise I could become completely immersed in the field of study I have chosen... I literally love medical science! To master it takes years of study... I was in medical school and had to dropped out because of a family illiness. Right at that time I had just been accepted to do Physiology research under one of my professors... As a research assistant I would have worked 12-14 hour days around the clock.
I never returned... and now I am in a nursing program which is much easier and offers me a lot more free time. Prior to that my medical school mentors had started telling many of my classmates who were women to pull back in their studies and go off and get married. Certain students who were married were urged to go ahead and take a year off to have a baby before going into residency.
I can recall a guy friend/classmate of mine one day looking up at me and telling me that I needed to go off get married and have a baby. You guys have no idea how offended I was by his statement at the time!!!
I was literally steamed!! I felt he was being sexist... That statement was made to me almost 10 years ago. Now I see he meant no harm in what he said and there were wisdom in his words...
I know so many people pick at the singles about getting married and suggest that many people are in a "rush" to enter into the season of getting married. Yes I think there are many people who get married too soon... But i also see the opposite.
I see many people like myself who are literally runing late in the game..... They should have gotten married like yesterday! And many of these women are pushing into their 40's...
Honestly i don't think that's what God intended... But it is what is occuring because many of us women are urged to think like men...
We are the one's trying to get our "house in order". We go out and get degree's and jobs, and many of us even have purchased homes... But we don't know how to be wives because our focus is all wrong...
it is the men who should have been doing those things... But if you look around today...especially in the Black community... it is the women thathave it together and most of the men are "marrying up". "so to speak".
I too for a long time was a slave to the idea that I really didn't need to get married until I accomplished most of my goals... God has dropped into my spirit "Not So...' I wanted to have more money in the bank but now I will be comming into a marriage with school loans...
That exactly how God wants it to be...
I have developed a spirit of being independent... That's not what God had in mind for me either... The idea of having to depend on a husband to take care of me frightens me... it makes me think that I would be a burden... That again goes aginst what God planned...
So I think for most women I don't think the issue is that we are trying to get married too soon... I think the issue is that we have gotten to much of a worldly view of marriage. Combined with the church focusing more on the women rather than the men being prepared...
And evenin the church... most preparation is still focused on the woman having a job, GOOD CREDIT, and some money in the bank...
And for the past year... I realized that truthfully that has nothing to do with being a wife.
Kitty
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Nov 1, 2007 12:00:04 GMT -5
lol, no need to duck bro. beck - you aren't the one saying that you are content with your singleness yet looking for a mate. ROFLOL ;D No need to talk about me like im not here. ;D Ummm... I wasn't talking about anyone in particular. I guess guilt will get ya every time! |
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Post by chosen on Nov 27, 2007 22:04:49 GMT -5
Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, “I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. But we are not all the same. God gives some the gift of marriage, and to others he gives the gift of singleness. Now I say to those who aren't married, and to widows – it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am.” Notice that he says some have the gift of singleness, and some the gift of marriage. Although it seems that nearly everyone marries, it is not necessarily God's will for them. Paul, for example, did not have to worry about the extra problems and stresses that come with marriage and/or family. He devoted his entire life to spreading the Word of God. He could not have been such a useful messenger to all of us if he had been married.
On the other hand, some people do better as a team, serving God as a couple and a family. Both kinds of people are equally important. It is not a sin to remain single, even your entire life. The most important things in life are not in finding a mate and having children, but in serving God. We should educate ourselves on the Word of God by reading our Bibles and praying, forming that personal relationship that is so necessary for our salvation (John 17:3). If we ask God to reveal Himself to us, He will respond (Matthew 7:7), and if we ask Him to use us to fulfill His good works, He will do that, too. “Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really....
"So how do you really know what gift that you have???" (Waiting on Rabbi Giant)"
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Post by giantsdodie on Nov 28, 2007 11:26:41 GMT -5
Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, “I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. But we are not all the same. God gives some the gift of marriage, and to others he gives the gift of singleness. Now I say to those who aren't married, and to widows – it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am.” Notice that he says some have the gift of singleness, and some the gift of marriage. Although it seems that nearly everyone marries, it is not necessarily God's will for them. Paul, for example, did not have to worry about the extra problems and stresses that come with marriage and/or family. He devoted his entire life to spreading the Word of God. He could not have been such a useful messenger to all of us if he had been married. On the other hand, some people do better as a team, serving God as a couple and a family. Both kinds of people are equally important. It is not a sin to remain single, even your entire life. The most important things in life are not in finding a mate and having children, but in serving God. We should educate ourselves on the Word of God by reading our Bibles and praying, forming that personal relationship that is so necessary for our salvation (John 17:3). If we ask God to reveal Himself to us, He will respond (Matthew 7:7), and if we ask Him to use us to fulfill His good works, He will do that, too. “Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really.... "So how do you really know what gift that you have???" (Waiting on Rabbi Giant)" You know what gift you have by asking the Lord what His will for your life is. Its that simple. Ask Him... This applies to any gift from the Lord. Personally for me marriage was a part of God's will for my life. I could not complete the plan of God for my life without marriage. One of the things God revealed to me is that HE wants to restablish the patriarchs in my family line. That means SONS... Cant have sons without marriage... You have to seek the Lord for His will for you. This is why I ask questions like " Do you know the will of God for your life ? " and while many saints say yes I find that there are often huge gaps in the knowledge of His will for their life. |
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Nope he said its not good for man to be alone... God had no problem with mans separateness, his uniqueness, or his wholeness. As a matter of fact, Adam didn't know he was alone.. Gods statement was predicated on his own observation of the situation,and with his own wisdom.
I don't want to go through what these ladies are going though. Then on the other hand I do want to have companion ship. Its not easy being single either.