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Post by kanyon on Jan 2, 2007 12:47:38 GMT -5
Timely question, I am dealing with this right now! There are two ministers who have married and the wife is being (persuaded) to leave her home church where she is in ministry... should the wife leave her duties at her church to attend her husbands church who does not allow women to work in ministry? Honestly, in situations like this, one really need to spend time in prayer together and see what the Holy Spirit would reveal in the matter. That is the next best thing when the bible is absolutely silent on the matter. Leave and cleave and pioneer a new Church, looks like an opportunity. We need to be married to the Lord and not to ministry. |
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Post by Beck on Jan 2, 2007 14:07:30 GMT -5
Honestly, in situations like this, one really need to spend time in prayer together and see what the Holy Spirit would reveal in the matter. That is the next best thing when the bible is absolutely silent on the matter. Leave and cleave and pioneer a new Church, looks like an opportunity. We need to be married to the Lord and not to ministry. Interesting... I believe that we fall prey to being more commited to the work of the Lord, over the Lord of the work... Its not always a easy thing to get a grip of. How would you go about making sure those people who are dedicated to the Work, remember the one who called them to the work??? |
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Post by kanyon on Jan 2, 2007 14:24:08 GMT -5
Leave and cleave and pioneer a new Church, looks like an opportunity. We need to be married to the Lord and not to ministry. Interesting... I believe that we fall prey to being more commited to the work of the Lord, over the Lord of the work... Its not always a easy thing to get a grip of. How would you go about making sure those people who are dedicated to the Work, remember the one who called them to the work??? Send them to do a week of menial work...that will do it.  Far down the hallway if they are more married to the 'ministry' than the Lord, you will hear the moan..."Don't you know I'm annointed?"  |
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Jan 2, 2007 16:16:44 GMT -5
Leave and cleave and pioneer a new Church, looks like an opportunity. We need to be married to the Lord and not to ministry. Interesting... I believe that we fall prey to being more commited to the work of the Lord, over the Lord of the work... Its not always a easy thing to get a grip of. How would you go about making sure those people who are dedicated to the Work, remember the one who called them to the work??? Exactly! |
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Post by anointedteacher on Jan 4, 2007 9:15:52 GMT -5
I think the situation should have been taken care of before marriage.
Women seem to get move emotional attach to ministry and people, so it is harder for her to leave than a man.... At the same time, God is the planter, not man or our emotion and feeling...
I don't think God will call a woman into ministry and give her a work to do in His Kingdom, than set her in a church that don't believe woman preacher. Counseling before marriage is important and being equally yoke...
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Post by Grace on Jan 7, 2007 22:38:11 GMT -5
I have a friend who got married recently, and what he and his wife decided to do was all based on whose calling currently was bigger for lack of a better word. Because she is the Youth pastor at the church and right now he is a minister at our church and on eof our musicians, he decided that it would be best to go to the church she was Youth Pastor at. in addition this worked out ok for them because our church is under the church that his wife is at. Not sure if there is a written rule for who should leave there church. I think its up to the two individuals to pray about and seek guidance from God on.
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Jan 8, 2007 13:53:31 GMT -5
I have a friend who got married recently, and what he and his wife decided to do was all based on whose calling currently was bigger for lack of a better word. Because she is the Youth pastor at the church and right now he is a minister at our church and on eof our musicians, he decided that it would be best to go to the church she was Youth Pastor at. in addition this worked out ok for them because our church is under the church that his wife is at. Not sure if there is a written rule for who should leave there church. I think its up to the two individuals to pray about and seek guidance from God on. Yes, direction from the Holy Spirit is necessary and no way should we base it on whose ministry is "bigger" (if there is even such a thing). |
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Post by Beck on Jan 8, 2007 14:15:35 GMT -5
I have a friend who got married recently, and what he and his wife decided to do was all based on whose calling currently was bigger for lack of a better word. Because she is the Youth pastor at the church and right now he is a minister at our church and on eof our musicians, he decided that it would be best to go to the church she was Youth Pastor at. in addition this worked out ok for them because our church is under the church that his wife is at. Not sure if there is a written rule for who should leave there church. I think its up to the two individuals to pray about and seek guidance from God on. Yes, direction from the Holy Spirit is necessary and no way should we base it on whose ministry is "bigger" (if there is even such a thing). Its a shame how many people won't leave a ministry based on the number of people that attend a church compared to the work the church actually does. I make sure I "Pastor" my wife and family... we have devotionals, prayer time, and other things we do as a family to strengthen our bond. So when we go to church on Sunday's... it isnt about the building or the people in it. Its about Jesus Christ. My wife gives me that respect and Im greatful to God for it, because a lot of couples won't do that. I also give her the respect of being a Minister of the Gospel as well. As the head of the home It is MY JOB FIRST to cover and pray for my family for direction.. the beautiful thing is she is right beside me praying for direction and for strength and covering. |
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Post by vindicated on Jan 8, 2007 14:22:52 GMT -5
I honestly believe that where you attend church is just as important as who you marry.
Where a couple will attend church should be discussed and decided upon before they get married. And I believe that the best way to decide that is through prayer and maybe fasting together. Whatever the Lord speaks or leads there should be an agreement between the two. Agreement to what the Lord says.
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Post by Hischild on Feb 18, 2007 16:19:46 GMT -5
So the wife has to attend the husbands church even if she is unhappy there, not growing there, not walking in her call there? It seems so unfair. What about submitting yourselves one to another? Why do women sometimes get the short end of the stick because of submission?
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Post by kanyon on Feb 19, 2007 0:42:41 GMT -5
Obedience is its own reward...
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Post by And Such Were Some Of You on Feb 19, 2007 6:31:57 GMT -5
Again, allow the Holy Spirit to have the final say in all matters. What is HE saying?
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Post by Beck on Feb 19, 2007 9:29:14 GMT -5
So the wife has to attend the husbands church even if she is unhappy there, not growing there, not walking in her call there? It seems so unfair. What about submitting yourselves one to another? Why do women sometimes get the short end of the stick because of submission? To be honest, most of my experiences with this has been the man leaving his church joining the woman.. I rarely see the woman getting the short end of the stick... |
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Post by anointedteacher on Feb 19, 2007 12:08:36 GMT -5
So the wife has to attend the husbands church even if she is unhappy there, not growing there, not walking in her call there? It seems so unfair. What about submitting yourselves one to another? Why do women sometimes get the short end of the stick because of submission? HisChild, In your other post you said you did years of praying.... which mean you been unhappy for a long time. During your prayer time about this situation, what did the Lord tell you to do? Did you at anytime heard His Voice? You never mention anything about how you husband feel about you leaving the church... is there any conflicts? And you never explained why you so unhappy. Sometime we pray about a situation and instead of leaving it with the Lord, we take to different people to get different opinoin.... and when God do speak, we miss it because we heard too many different voices.... Nothing in the Bible that say you have attend the same church that your husband attend.... The Bible did says in All your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.... Be led by the Holy Spirit.... and obey the voice of God. AT |
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Post by Hischild on Feb 19, 2007 13:26:56 GMT -5
AT I was addressing the issue non specific to my case. I was speaking generally. It seems like some (not all) women have to go through a whole bunch of religious/church changes once they get married.
Kanyon can you please explain to me how obedience is its own reward? Break it down my brother!!
Thanks!!
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Far down the hallway if they are more married to the 'ministry' than the Lord, you will hear the moan..."Don't you know I'm annointed?" 
