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Post by giantsdodie on Jul 18, 2008 8:24:14 GMT -5
Warning NOT going to be popular !!!!
This is our chruch teaching on dating.
Seven Reasons Why There is No Dating In The Kingdom Of GOD
1) Not a Covenant Relationship. (Hosea 2:19,20)
Dating is not a Covenant relationship. However all GOD inspired, GOD-Ordained relationships have Covenant as its basis. A Covenant is a mutual contractual agreement between two parties, binding them together as one for a particular purpose, and the accomplishment of a particular goal. It is legal and binding, and it calls for commitment and fidelity. Covenants can exist between GOD and man, man and man, man and woman, and nations. The Sacred Scriptures reveal that GOD-Ordained Covenant relationships among men are marriage, brotherhoods, friendships, and Ministry and business partnerships. Even engagements or betrothals were so legally binding, as Covenant relationships, that it took a divorce to end it. (Genesis 2:24,25; I Peter 2:17; I Samuel 18:1-4; Matthew 1:18,19)
Dating does not appear at all in Scripture. It is not discussed, neither is there any teaching specifically for or against. Could it be that because it is not a Covenant relationship, it does not merit mentioning? Dating is not legal or binding; neither does it call for commitment or fidelity. It has only one purpose – the expression of lustful passions, and one goal – fornication. It does not give true companionship because it has no Promise or chance of Prophetic Fulfillment. In other words, it is devoid of all the things that a Covenant relationship has. And if it is not a Covenant relationship, it is not of GOD; and if it is not of GOD, it is not allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
2) Divine Ordination vs. Sampling. (Genesis 24)
In Matthew 19:6 it says, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore GOD hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” My focus is not the dissolution of a marriage in a divorce, or remarriage, which also is not lawful, but the Principle of GOD joining two and making them one. The Scripture would not mention GOD joining a man and a woman as one in marriage, if GOD did not join a man and a woman as one in marriage. This means that any relationship, especially marriage, should be the result of GOD’s Joining, which is a result of HIS Divine Ordination or according to HIS Design and based on HIS Intention. Any true Covenant relationship should have this one Truth as its foundation, however some do not, because they are covenants embarked upon without HIM. We are free will moral agents and we can choose to enter into covenants with or without the benefit of consulting GOD, and having HIM institute what HIS WILL is for our lives in the relationship, and though its is best when we do, unfortunately many do not, producing unholy alliances.
Dating is not according to the Divine Ordination of GOD, because GOD is not consulted in the dating process, neither will HE allow HIMSELF to be, because it is not according to HIS Design, nor based on HIS Intentions for relationships. Dating is according to our design, and based on what we intend, according to our likes and dislikes, our wants and needs, our whims and impulses, our desires and passions, or our cravings and longings, our preferences and rathers, and our instincts and intuition. What a recipe for disaster!
Dating is a matter of us sampling what is available to see if we like it, and if it will work out. That may mean that we will wind up trying out many people, auditioning many players for the role of companion. Who ever goes to a buffet and just tastes one thing? Dating is like sampling at a buffet, we taste many dishes to see what we like, and what works for us, when we should taste and see that THE LORD is Good. We try them out to see if it will work out. Sadly enough, it rarely does, yet that doesn’t stop folks from trying it, and when it does, its results fall far short of the benefits of a Covenant relationship that is based on Divine Ordination. And if dating “works”, what is its Eternal Value and Consequence? Well, if it is not of GOD, because it is not a Covenant relationship based on HIS Divine Ordination, then it could land folks in hell, if not repented of in this life.
Dating is based on feelings not Faith in GOD, which constitutes the initiation of all true Covenant relationships, and THE HOLY BIBLE says “whatsoever is not of Faith is sin” (Romans 14:23), therefore feelings oriented dating is sin in the Sight of GOD, and very well could result in hell, if continued in until death without Repentance. Since it is not according to Divine Ordination, and therefore sin, dating is not of GOD, neither is it allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
3) Omniscient GOD vs. finite mind. (Proverbs 3:5-8)
The Sacred Scripture says in Proverbs 3:5-8; “Trust in THE LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge HIM, and HE shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: Fear THE LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.” In the Text it clearly and succinctly tells us that who or what we acknowledge is who or what we truly trust. It commands us to show our trust in THE LORD by acknowledging HIM, not in some or most of our ways, or a lot or a few of our ways, or in the ways that are convenient, comfortable, or easy, but in ALL our ways. When we do so THE HOLY BIBLE Promises us that HE will direct our path. Again this is a matter of Faith.
The biggest reason why folks do not consult GOD for a mate, but would rather date, is because of a lack of Faith. It is because of fear, doubt, fret, worry, anxiety, and disbelief born of unbelief. For some reason we don’t believe that GOD will give us someone that we would need and want. We really don’t believe that GOD would give us someone to be our mate that would be what we would like in a mate. We don’t believe that GOD will give us someone that we will “fall madly in love with”. We think GOD will give us some one so spiritual that they will be of no earthly good to us. I don’t know about anybody else, but I think that is folly.
This is the same GOD that said in Ephesians 3:20, and we believe it for what we want to, “Now unto HIM that is able to do Exceeding Abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the Power (The WORD of GOD and THE HOLY GHOST HIMSELF) that worketh in us.” Within this Scripture lies our answer and the exposure of our problem; HE is well able to do more than we could dare desire, request, or imagine, which proves HIS Idea of a mate, or any other Covenant relationship, will be infinitely better than ours. However, because THE LORD won’t do it our way, but HIS, according to the Power that works within us, we don’t want to believe HIM for it. Faith is a choice, and often we simply don’t choose to believe JESUS. GOD doing it according to the Power that works within us means HE will produce by things and from a place we can not see, and not from things and a place we can see, at a time when HE deems it appropriate. GOD will do it by HIS WORD and by HIS SPIRIT, and not according to our likes and dislikes, our wants and needs, our whims and impulses, our desires and passions, our cravings and longings, our preferences and rathers, or our instincts and intuition. It is Power that works, and works within us to supply all our needs, both spiritual and natural.
The reason for this unbelief is because we are not in control, and the Truth of the matter is that we are more willing to trust HIM for things that are clearly beyond our control, and not very willing to trust HIM for things we can conceivably, in our own flawed finite mind, control ourselves for our selves. There are some things we don’t want to trust GOD with, because we want to control it and don’t want HIM to. We trust THE LORD to save us and our families and other souls, but we don’t trust HIM to marry us to the right person. We trust THE LORD to heal us and prosper us, but not marry us to the right person. We trust THE LORD to anoint us and use us, but not to marry us to the right person. Is JESUS LORD or what? Away with this fickle hearted unbelief, and let us have Faith in GOD.
Another reason is because of impatience, for we really don’t want to wait on a mate, and we really, really don’t want to wait on GOD for a mate. GOD takes too long. We think, here I am miserable because I am alone and lonely, and I can’t take it any more, and God wants me to wait until I am “ready”. How ready do I need to be? I want it so I must be ready. GOD wants to process us so that we are what we need to be, and can do what we will need to do to have a healthy marriage relationship, or other Covenant relationships, and all we can think of is: I can’t wait that long; YOU can do anything GOD, can’t YOU do it when I am married? Isn’t that just a little shortsighted, presumptuous, and selfish. The Sacred Scriptures say that by Faith and Patience we inherit the Promises of GOD (Hebrews 6:12), and that’s why many don’t receive their GOD-Ordained mate, and their other GOD-Ordained Covenant relationships, is because they don’t want to believe GOD or wait on GOD, but this is the way that yields the best possible results.
Another reason we don’t trust GOD is because of our feelings. We date because of what we want: somebody, and because of what we don’t want: the loneliness of being alone. We date because we are horny, and want to get laid. We date because that person is oh so fine, and we are oh so attracted to them, we can’t think of not giving it a shot. We date because we want affirmation, we want someone to notice us, compliment us, and be attentively involved with us. We want to date because we want romance in our lives, and the intimacy that comes with companionship. We date because we are afraid that we can’t wait any longer without falling, so we panic and go into an all out search for someone to be with before we fall into fornication. Anything motivated by feelings alone is a disaster waiting to happen because feelings change, and they can not be satisfied by dating, only disappointed.
It would seem that the best way to go about doing anything or planning anything would be to acknowledge, ask, seek, or inquire of GOD. Why? We must grow to the place where we acknowledge, ask, seek, or inquire of GOD for any and every thing, first, because HE is our All-knowing, All-seeing, and All-wise GOD, or in other words, our Omniscient GOD. If anybody knows who we should be in a Covenant relationship with, whether that relationship is marriage, brotherhoods, friendships, Ministry or business partnerships, and even engagements or betrothals, it must be our All-knowing, All-seeing, All-wise, and Omniscient GOD.
If we lean to our own understanding, we run the risk of messing things up, and let’s face it – that’s exactly what will happen. The Scriptures testify to this Truth. Proverbs 14:12 and Proverbs 16:25; “There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” (So true HE said it twice) Proverbs 19:21; “There are many devices in a man's heart; nevertheless the Counsel of THE LORD, that shall stand.” Proverbs 20:24; “Man's goings are of THE LORD; how can a man then understand his own way?” Proverbs 16:9; “A man's heart deviseth his way: but THE LORD directeth his steps.” Jeremiah 10:23; “O LORD, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps.” This is the best we can hope for when we lean to our own understanding: failure, defeat, death, and destruction. We don’t know who we should be with, or who we need in our lives, nor do we know the right criteria or standard by which we should judge and make our decision. We need JESUS!!! We need our Omniscient GOD!!!
JESUS knows who and what is best for us, and who should be in our lives as our mates, and in all our other Covenant relationships. Look at what The WORD says in Jeremiah 29:11-14; “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have toward you, saith THE LORD thy GOD, thoughts of Peace, and not of evil; plans to Prosper you and to do you Good, and not to harm you; plans to give you Hope and a future, and bring you to an Expected End. (KJV & NIV) Then shall ye call upon ME, and ye shall go and pray unto ME, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek ME, and find ME, when ye shall search for ME with all your heart. And I will be found of you, saith THE LORD: and I will turn away your captivity, and I will gather you from all the nations, and from all the places whither I have driven you, saith THE LORD; and I will bring you again into the place whence I caused you to be carried away captive.” And Isaiah 46:9-11; “Remember the former things of old: for I AM GOD, and there is none else; I AM GOD, and there is none like ME, Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, MY Counsel shall stand, and I will do all MY Pleasure: Calling a ravenous bird from the east, the man that executeth MY Counsel from a far country: yea, I have spoken it, I will also bring it to pass; I have purposed it, I will also do it.” Psalms 37:23; “The steps of a good man are ordered by THE LORD: and HE delighteth in his way.” Psalms 119:133; “Order my steps in THY WORD: and let not any iniquity have dominion over me.” Psalms 119:130; “The entrance of THY WORDS giveth Light; it giveth Understanding unto the simple.” Psalms 119:105; “Thy WORD is a Lamp unto my feet, and a Light unto my path.” Here is the coup de grace, the piece de resistance: Read Isaiah 40:12-34; Ephesians 1:3-14; and Romans 8:28-39.
Now can our flawed finite minds compete with that, can it even hope to match the Omniscience of our GOD, can it produce and get the results our All-knowing, All-seeing, All-wise GOD can? I think not. Is there any better reason to let our Omniscient GOD direct our path in all things, especially our Covenant relationships? Why lean to our finite minds, when we can appeal to The Omniscient GOD? Why not trust GOD, and not our selves, and acknowledge HIM about our Covenant relationships, especially our mates, and let HIM grant us the people with whom we are to be in Covenant relationships? Dating is a product of the finite mind, and not the Omniscience of our Glorious GOD. We have not because we ask not. THE LORD our GOD can and should arrange our marriages, brotherhoods, friendships, engagements or betrothals, and even Ministry or business partnerships, and our entire lives, and HE will if we only seek HIM and obey HIM. It is best this way. Period. If we don’t do so we are telling The Omniscient GOD that we know better and know more than HE does about what would be best for us, and what would make us happy, which is blasphemy. Leaning to the understanding of our own finite minds is not of GOD, particularly for our Covenant relationships, and neither is it allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
4) Dating leads invariably to fornication. (Proverbs 7)
In The Scriptural Text above, Proverbs 7, we see a graphic description of the course of dating. We see where it leads to and what the outcome of that result is. We also see the motivating and contributing factors to dating. Dating is about self-gratification, self-indulgence, and covetousness (lusting for the forbidden), all of which is idolatry, which has nothing to do with THE MOST HIGH GOD or the True Worship (pleasing and serving) of THE MOST HIGH GOD. Where there is idolatry there will always be fornication, because just as Holy Matrimony is consummated with intercourse, and that intercourse or sex is Worship unto GOD, because it honours HIS Order for Covenant relationships, so is fornication worship offered to the idol god of self, which is Satan and you.
Dating is brought about when we are lead away captive by our lusts and enticements to pursue avenues to satisfy our need for companionship, our way and in our time, instead of seeking THE LORD, by Grace through Faith, and waiting on HIM to supply all needed Covenant relationships. When we are engaged in frequent interaction with the opposite sex, particularly in a romantic way, entertaining the thoughts of it, harboring the feelings of it, fantasizing about the possibility of it, saying stuff we shouldn’t be saying, flirting and being coy, and flip at the mouth, it will invariably lead to fornication, illegal sex out side of the Covenant of Marriage, otherwise known as Holy Matrimony. All that time together, alone, in private, behind closed doors, opens doors to sexual activity that is illegal, in other words, fornication, whether it is in the form of oral sex, phone sex, cyber sex, masturbation, groping and fondling, vaginal sex, anal sex, and even homosexuality, if it is a same sex situation. GOD forbid!!! All that time spent with someone you are attracted to and have strong passions for – fine, looking good, smelling good, feeling good, talking and acting right (for now), and without the benefit that the boundaries of a Covenant relationship will give you, you better believe there will be fornication. Why? Because dating appeals to our baser nature, and not the Nature of CHRIST in us.
If we are honest with ourselves, we must admit that there is no way we can actually date and not fornicate. Spending that kind of time, in that type of way, opens the doors to the thoughts of it from our own hearts and minds, and self and flesh, not to mention the fiery darts of Satan that will suggest so. This shows us that fornication is spiritual, and psychological, meaning mental and emotional, and not just physical. JESUS said if we thought it, then we did it (Matthew 5:28), and The Scriptures teach us as a man thinks in heart so is he (Proverbs 23:7), and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (or we tend to act) (Luke 6:45), meaning if we ponder it long enough, we will be it and do it.
We think dating will lead to marriage, but it often leads to break ups, and more dating, and multiple lovers, instead of a mate. THE LORD would never advocate or initiate a means by which people would come together that would have such a great potential to lead to sin. The process, as depicted in Genesis 24, is that a man must build his Covenant relationship with GOD, and while GOD is working on the man, HE is preparing the woman for the man of HIS Choice for her. When GOD determines they are ready, HE leads the man to the woman of HIS Choice for him, and he finds her while he is worshipping his GOD (pleasing and serving HIM). The man should communicate what he has heard to this woman, asking her to pray to confirm this, and seeking to speak to the men in her life, her father or her pastor, or both, or her brethren in CHRIST, depending on who is available and apart of her life, to communicate his intentions, and asking them for Prayer to confirm as well. He should also seek counsel at the Mouth of GOD, and with the multitude of counselors that are his inner circle, for his own personal confirmation. Once it has been agreed upon by all parties concerned, that this is of THE LORD and it is HIS Doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes, and that THE LORD has done great things for us, whereof we are glad, then appointments for counseling should be made, a wedding date set (after consulting GOD), and wedding and marriage arrangements made as THE LORD further leads. Courtship should begin, and should the couple find it necessary, it should be chaperoned, just to keep it holy, by their saved family members and other saved and loving couples, using this time to glean Wisdom from their experience and the Principles of Truth they have learned. This man should continue to honour the protocol The WORD establishes for interaction with the opposite sex while courting his fiancé (I Timothy 5:1,2; Titus 2:6-8; I Thessalonians 5:22), and still get to know his soon to be bride and wife, in a godly fashion. This is what will balance the romantic inclinations that begin to arise as the two become closer, spiritually and emotionally.
This is how to go about establishing a Covenant relationship that is legal and binding, and that answers the call for commitment and fidelity first to GOD, in pursuing it in a holy manner, and to one another. This way is less likely to open doors to sin, if people obey The WORD of GOD and the Leading of THE HOLY GHOST in doing so, because its contrivance is of GOD, and comes under HIS Auspices. Dating leads to fornication, and all the problems that come with fornication, especially when people are going about it to satisfy things only GOD can, moving in unbelief, impatience, and feelings, and not by Faith and Patience in GOD, doing it against GOD’s WILL and out of sync with HIS Timing, with the wrong motives and intentions, being immature and unprepared, with no covering or accountability.
You know what? Carnal, soulish, sensual, earthly, and devilish folks want to date, because they want it by any means necessary according to their appetites and their desires. The spiritual, those who are mature in CHRIST, want it GOD’s WAY, and in GOD’s Timing, and according to GOD’s Choice. We saved, sanctified, HOLY GHOST filled, and Fire baptized Christians want to escape singleness, and Chastity, and the possibility of being alone for a considerable period of time so desperately, that we will date, and run the risk of shipwrecking our relationship with GOD, and the future Blessed Covenant relationship HE has for us with the right mate, received by Grace through Faith, and waiting on GOD patiently and contently.
When JESUS is your Chief Companion, and you cleave to HIM, and draw from HIM all the Joy, Peace, Patience, Contentment, Strength, and everything else you need to pursue HIM, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Covenant relationship HE has planned for your life, then you can get the most out of being single, and live a single, saved, strong, and satisfied life in and through CHRIST, without dating and opening the door to losing all this, and your soul too.
Anything that has so great a potential to lead to sin, is not only contrary to GOD, but ought not to be messed with, nor considered as a viable way to answer the companionship question. Dating leads to fornication at worst, and an unequal yoking at best, and that is not of GOD, neither is it allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among it citizens.
5) Dating leads to Soul ties and transferences of spirits (I Corinthians 6:15-20)
We have already established that dating is not a Covenant relationship, and because it is not it creates illegal bonds between people called soul ties. When GOD said that the man should leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife, and the two would become one flesh, he is speaking of a natural union, depicted in intercourse, and a spiritual union, which is a knitting in the spirit from heart to heart, and among the saved, that knitting or bond is by THE HOLY SPIRIT. The nature of the knitting or bond that creates this heart to heart rapport is the LOVE of GOD, and it has CHRIST JESUS as its Foundation and its Source. (Genesis 2:24; I Corinthians 6:15-20; Ephesians 5:25-33) Many may point to The Scripture in I Samuel 18:1 where it is says, “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”, believing that it legalizes soul ties, however the Hebrew word for soul in this Text is nephesh, which translates first as ghost or spirit, heart, and then soul. So in actuality, it was their hearts were knitted together as friends by GOD, and not their souls. If this is so for one of the greatest friendships ever, how much more for all friendships, marriages, and all other Covenant relationships.
However, because dating is not a Covenant relationship, and therefore illegal before GOD, the bond created is an illegal one called a soul tie, where souls are joined and not hearts. This is very important for the redeemed, because we have been set free from the dominion of sin and the soul, and our spirit has been quickened alive in CHRIST, and in that revived spirit JESUS CHRIST reigns upon the throne of our heart, which is located in the spirit man, and is the seat of all authority in our being. Now our spirit man rules, as he submits to THE LORD our GOD, over our being and not the soul or the flesh (our bodies, and its human nature, nor the sin nature within the body). Every bond or connection that takes place in the life of the believer must be GOD-Ordained and initiated, and be from heart to heart, a spiritual union. All soulish unions therefore are illegal, whether you are saved or unsaved. Why? All unions in the soul arouse self.
Look at what is said in Matthew 16:24; “Then said JESUS unto HIS disciples, If any man will come after ME, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow ME.” Self is the stain of sin in the soul that conditions the soul to please and serve itself and not GOD, as it was originally designed to do. JESUS said this “self” must be denied, meaning starved to death, and thereby deprived of all life, power, and influence.
When people, especially saints, unite soulishly or sensually through dating, they arouse self in the soul which now vies for control of the life, power, and influence in the person’s being and their relationship through the soul tie. That soul tie locks people into self, which means the soul tie further empowers selfishness in a person’s life, and makes one vulnerable to manipulation (which is witchcraft) by the person to which they are soul tied, which affects their intellect, will, emotions, imagination, and memory, all of which make up the soul.
Now, you tell me who wants to have these intimate parts of their being unduly controlled by some one else other than THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY? The purpose of all witchcraft is to gain control over someone, against their will, by the strategies of domination, intimidation, or manipulation, through tactics that are mystical, behavioral, or systematic in nature; and that’s the defilement and desecration that soul ties make possible.
Contrary to popular theological belief, the mind is not a component of the soul, but it is the interconnecting point between all three parts of man’s being and their consciousness, spirit – GOD consciousness (aware of GOD), soul – personal consciousness that also interprets all stimuli experienced (aware of your own person), and body – environmental consciousness (aware of your own surroundings). That’s why it is referred to as the battle ground, because the enemy knows he can get three for one and get straight to the heart, if he attacks this area of our being.
It is also the place where calculation, computation, and formulation of thought occurs, where they are arranged in order, assigned a category, and recorded and filed. However, though not directly affected by the soul tie as a component of the soul, it is still indirectly affected, for the soul tie interferes with its functions, bringing confusion and distraction, and grants access to the enemy for his fiery darts. How? The soul being in a state of flux, due to the soul tie, causes arousal of the carnal mind, which begins to wage war against the Mind of CHRIST in our minds, leading to possible double mindedness, which makes one unstable in all their ways. This arouses flesh, the sin nature in the body, and it wages war in the members to sin against GOD. The soul tie also affects the human nature of a man in all its passions, drives, and mechanisms, arousing satisfaction of these apart from The WILL of GOD. Man is spirit, soul, and body, and has a heart and a mind, and a soul tie can affect them all. All this from a date!
These soul ties, when in the life of the believer, empower self, and all the enemies of our soul within us, to stage rebellion, and launch a coup de tat against The Throne of GOD, and HIS Government, established in our heart, where CHRIST JESUS is enthroned as LORD, GOD, KING, and Judge by the Indwelling PERSON, Presence, and Power of THE HOLY GHOST. A war immediately ensues when one dates, that threatens The Kingdom of GOD, meaning THE KING’s Dominion (rule and control)), THE KING’s Domain (territory under HIS Governing Authority and Influence), and the state of being it gives – Righteousness, Peace, and Joy in THE HOLY GHOST, in the spirit of the believer. Redeemed man is to be ruled by THE LORD from his heart, and through his spirit, by THE HOLY SPIRIT. Anything else is not of GOD. Dating sets up the rule of self over man’s being from his soul, facilitated by soul ties he has developed with those he dates, which is contrary to GOD’s Order. Why would GOD support and endorse a relationship that could potentially undermine and overthrow HIS Kingdom in the heart of the believer? That’s what dating, and the soul ties it develops, does.
Through this soul tie a transference of spirit occurs, meaning parts of one’s human spirit is deposited in the spirit of the other person. As if the defilement of a soul tie wasn’t enough, now you run the risk of parts of someone else’s spirit living in yours illegally, which further affects The Kingdom of GOD in you, and the normal operation of your entire being. All this from a date! Imagine living with a bunch of different people inside of you, with all their personality defects and character flaws, their quirks, pet peeves, and idiosyncrasies, their generational curses and bloodline spirits? What, bloodline spirits? Do you mean demons? Yes, demons too can transfer from their life to yours, and vice versa. How? Your dating opens a door for the demons in that person’s life to invite alike unclean spirits into your life, because of alike sins that make transference legal, and vice versa. Remember, we are to give no place to the devil. (Ephesians 4:27) However when we submit to GOD and resist the devil by not dating, and not developing soul ties, and opening doors to the transference of spirits, he and his demons must flee, in JESUS NAME. (James 4:7) You don’t have to be the one with many people living inside of you creating havoc, chaos, and confusion. We have already established that because dating is sampling you may wind up trying out many people, and having, through the fornication it leads to, multiple lovers, making this possible, but it doesn’t have to be.
How many people do you want living inside of you? How many people do you want vying for undue control in your life from the inside of you? THE LORD GOD has ordained that only one PERSON control you, and that is HIM!!! THE LORD GOD has ordained that only one person, other than HIMSELF, is supposed to be so connected to you that they live inside of you and share your life to that degree of intimacy, and that is your GOD-Ordained Covenant spouse. All other Covenant relationships, although close in connection, do not share that degree of intimacy, which makes marriage the greatest of the human GOD-Ordained Covenant relationships. Why? Because it is just like CHRIST’s Covenant relationship with HIS Bride, The Church; HE lives on the inside of them, and they live in and through HIM. Why date and run these risks, when GOD can connect you in the right way, at the right time, to the right person for you, without this kind of trauma and drama.
This teaching is in no wise meant to portray GOD-Ordained Covenant relationships as being without challenge, in fact they are challenged like no other, but we have Grace to overcome these challenges, the challenges work for us a far more Exceeding and Eternal weight of Glory, the challenges are not worthy to be compared to the Glory that will be revealed with us, and they are for Righteousness sake, which mean they are of a different nature than those of sin, and with a different outcome: LIFE Abundant and Eternal, and Victory and Liberty in CHRIST JESUS, and not the failure, defeat, death, and destruction that are the wages of sinful relationships like dating.
Dating leads to soul ties and transferences of spirits that threaten our souls, and our relationship with GOD. Certainly, THE LORD GOD would not institute a form of relationship among HIS people that would jeopardize the Salvation HE has given them, and the relationship it creates between HE and them. Therefore, because dating leads to soul ties and transferences of spirits, it is not of GOD, and therefore not allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
6) Dating leads to broken hearts (James 1:13-15)
This is one of the major problems with dating. What happens when it doesn’t work out? Well, I’ll tell you, hearts get broken. And from that broken heart, a wounded spirit and an injured psyche. Whether it is by disappointment, cheating, culture clashes, immaturity, irresponsibility, abuse, family squabbles, con games, theft, lies, treachery, betrayal, or irreconcilable differences, it ends and hearts are broken. (Proverbs 13:12) Heartache, hurt feelings, and personality clashes occur in every relationship, in Covenant ones and in illegal ones forged in the evil fires of dating. However Covenant relationships are for a lifetime, and they have GOD to work out the problems, and HIS Grace to endure them and overcome them. Dating doesn’t have GOD in it, and has no Grace for its problems; it has nothing to strengthen, support, or sustain it, like Grace does Covenant relationships, other than human effort. Any relationship forged by dating can not survive, for there is nothing that can survive on human effort alone, for human effort has nothing of Eternal Value to it.
THE HOLY BIBLE says in James 1:15; “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.” Relationships forged through dating are relationships birthed out of lust. The Sacred Scriptures say that anything conceived in lust is sin, and its end or outcome is death. Therefore any relationship born out of dating is doomed to die, because anything birthed in sin will die. The death of relationships, even Covenant relationships, lead to broken hearts.
Is that to say that Covenant relationships are no different than dating relationships? Yes they are, for anything born out of The WILL of GOD is ordained to LIFE and that Abundant and Eternal. A Covenant relationship can last to the end of time and stand the test of time, when its terms and stipulations are honoured and kept. They end in heartbreak only when the Covenant partners sin, and violate the Covenant terms and stipulations, which is not GOD’s fault or the honourable party, but the violators. Sin brings death! Imagine, however, when a relationship is conceived in sin and shaped in iniquity, not starting right but interrupted by a sinful act, but starting off contrary and opposed to GOD, because it is sin, and it is sinful throughout, it most certainly is doomed before it gets started. When it starts out according to GOD’s Divine Ordination, it has GOD to make it survive and succeed, and only man’s disobedience can stop that, but when it starts out in sin, it shall surely die, and that certain death guarantees a broken heart. Out of what womb do you want your relationships conceived and birthed, that of HEAVEN, or that of hell? That will determine its end.
If one dates more than one person, how many broken hearts does that mean? How many times do we want to endure a broken heart? It isn’t just the people who are dating that wind up broken hearted, their family and friends also go through it with them. Now we have a vicious cycle spiraling out of control, sucking other people into its vortex like a tornado, and flinging people all over the place to land in a heap as a huddled mass of flesh. Is this what you want? Is it worth it to date, when all you can truly expect from it is a broken heart?
No one ever embarks on a dating relationship looking for a broken heart, and very few look to break someone else’s heart, but more times than not, nine times out of ten, that’s exactly what happens. The end breaks hearts, and more so when it ends badly, as they most often do. Lets not even discuss, the arduous Healing and Deliverance process, and the process of daring to love, trust, and respect again. Who out there thinks it is better to date and experience the death of a broken heart?
It is better to submit the matter of our relationships to THE LORD, and allow HIM to add to us and our lives the people HE wants in Covenant relationship with us, and vice versa, according to HIS Divine Ordination (HIS Design and HIS Intention), especially a spouse, and obediently and faithfully pursue and cultivate these relationship GOD’s WAY and in GOD’s Timing. Going from broken heart to broken heart while dating is not of GOD, and therefore it is not allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
7) Vision (Identity, Purpose, and Destiny) (Proverbs 29:18)
Dating does not have the benefit of being a relationship that has the Vision of GOD revealed concerning it. It doesn’t because it is not a Covenant relationship established by GOD’s Divine Ordination, and only Covenant has Vision. The Sacred Scriptures say that “Where there is no Vision (no Redemptive Revelation), the people cast off restraint and perish: but he that keepeth the Law, Happy (Blessed) is he.” (KJV, Amp, & NKJV) Since dating has no Vision, it has no Prophetic Revelation declared over it that redeems and sets the consecrated sanctity (committed purity), order, direction, course, and standard operating procedures of the relationship. Therefore dating has no boundaries that are to be adhered to that protects and prospers those involved, and preserves the relationship. This causes those involved to cast off restraint, meaning they will do things against their conscience or what they know to be right, and will refuse to submit to rules and regulations that are contrary to their stimulated appetites, being now led away captive by their lusts and enticements. This leads to perishing or death: death of heart and affections, death of relationships, death of hopes and dreams, death of potential, death of the future, and maybe even ultimate death, eternal separation from GOD.
This is another reason why dating doesn’t work, because it is not The WILL of GOD, it has no Promise or Prophecy from GOD declared over it that will guarantee Fulfillment from GOD of the relationship, in the relationship, and for the relationship, for the Glory of GOD, in JESUS NAME. These are the initial stages of Vision that incubates and invests what is of the Vision in one’s spirit. If GOD hasn’t spoken over it, and HE doesn’t speak Promise and Prophecy over a date or dating (unless to call it to Repentance), it has not the Heart and Mind of GOD, and it has no LIFE from GOD, therefore it has no chance of Fulfillment, and it will not and can not live.
The Vision of GOD reveals a person’s Identity (who a person is), Purpose (the reason why that person is), and Destiny (what this person must accomplish) in CHRIST JESUS, for the Glory of GOD. THE LORD does this to give the person’s life the consecrated sanctity, order, direction, course, and standard operating procedures necessary to please and serve HIM, and cause HIS Kingdom to come and HIS WILL to be done in and through their life, in the earth, and in a generation, for HIS Glory. This is based on their Covenant relationship with THE LORD as HIS children. The same is so for their Covenant relationships. THE LORD has a Vision for each one of the their Covenant relationships, that fits into the overall Vision for their life, which fits into GOD’s overall Vision for the Body of CHRIST. Vision is just like Deliverance, it is on levels and in layers. Therefore, each Covenant relationship has its own GOD-Ordained Identity, Purpose, and Destiny. This makes every Covenant relationship unique and distinct.
This is not so for dates and dating, it is the same old thing with a different person. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, and leads to the vicious cycle of the death and defeat of revolving circumstances. That’s what takes place when you date. It starts the same way, its goes the same way, and it ends the same way as all the others before it. No uniqueness and no distinction. Why? No Identity, Purpose, or Destiny. Why? No Vision from GOD. Why? No Covenant with or before GOD.
When a relationship has no Identity, Purpose, and Destiny it easily goes awry, it casts of restraint and perishes. That’s why dating leads to fornication, and soul ties, and transferences of spirits, because there is no Vision to balance and order it in The WILL, The WORD, and The WAY of THE MOST HIGH GOD.
Until a person has their own personal Vision for GOD, they should not pursue marriage, and they should certainly never date. Until they have matured, and become complete, whole, and blameless through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person is trained, developed, prepared, and equipped through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person is anointed, appointed, and approved through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person is tested, tried, and proven through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person is established, settled, and stable, both spiritually and naturally, through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person is delivered from: sin, illicit sex, pornography, drugs, debt, unholy alliances, popular opinion, the expectations and opinions of others, devils, soul ties, idolatry, witchcraft, high places, unclean altars, strongholds, transferred human and demonic spirits, generational curses, bloodline spirits, mindsets and belief systems, wives tales, fables, superstitions, vain traditions, heartache, heart break, issues, hang ups, baggage, experiences – the conclusions we drew from them, the vows we made because of them, and the warped twisted view of reality we have from them, through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage. Until a person’s mind is renewed from society’s humanistic and materialistic philosophies, ideologies, culture, and customs through their pursuit of GOD, HIS WORD, HIS Holiness, and the Vision of GOD for their life to the initial foundational stages determined by GOD, they should not pursue the Covenant relationship of Marriage.
A person should have their Innocence back from THE HOLY SPIRIT, and thereby possessing the Optimism and Objectivity born of the LOVE and Faith of GOD in their spirit, and not be jaded, cynical, skeptical, suspicious, and pessimistic. They should have their priorities in order, the perspectives straight, and their perceptions clear according to The WILL of GOD for their lives, and the Truth of GOD’s WORD. Am I saying people must be perfect before being married? Yes, according to the BIBLICAL definition. They must be complete, mature, and blameless to the initial foundational degrees that GOD has set for them, and growing into flawlessness and faultlessness, from moment to moment, day by day, for the rest of their lives, in and through CHRIST JESUS their LORD.
Lets dig deeper. Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is responsible enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is accountable enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is mature enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is reliable enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person can build true intimacy, spiritually and naturally, with you, and you with them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person can establish true oneness, spiritually and naturally, with you, and you with them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person can truly be compatible, spiritually and naturally, with you, and you with them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person can complete you, spiritually and naturally, and you them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person can complement you, spiritually and naturally, and you them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is honest enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is transparent enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person respects you enough, and you them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is sharing enough for you, and you for them, while dating? Without Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is secure enough for you, and you for them, and can be GOD’s conduit to provide a measure of security for you, and you for them, while dating? Without a Vision from GOD to show you, how can you discern if a person is truly understanding enough for you, and you for them, while dating? I said all that to say this: Vision gives you the criteria and standard to discern or judge who is for you and who is not. When you have a Vision, no bootleg, broke down, busted, disgusted, can’t be trusted, jack legged, bobble head doll can step to you and say “I heard from GOD and you are the one”, and you go for it out of ignorance, desperation, horniness, or despair. You are armed and dangerous, and ready, willing, and able to resist, withstand, and crush every such attempt launched as an attack from Satan, because you have a Vision from GOD, and you won’t accept anything less than or contrary to what GOD has spoken, written, and revealed for your life.
When a person has a Vision from GOD for their life and their Covenant relationships, they have Identity, Purpose, and Destiny, which edifies them, encourages, them, and empowers them to answer the above questions. They have a blueprint for their life and relationships that tells them how GOD is going to build them and their relationships, and those with whom they are in relationship. Dating doesn’t provide that. We make the choice when dating based on what we desire that’s aesthetically appealing to the eye, attractive to the senses, beautiful to behold, and because they may even possess qualities that are pleasing to us. All this is surface, shallow, and superficial. Man looks on the outward appearance, but GOD looks on that which truly determines who a person is, the heart. (I Samuel 16:7) Only GOD knows if a person’s heart is right to connect with and match up with yours, and vice versa. If we continue to decide who is going to be in our lives according to these selfish, sensual, earthly (or worldly), and devilish criterion and standards, then we will always date and always miss GOD, and harvest death in our relationships. Dating has no Vision from GOD, therefore it is not of GOD, and therefore it is not allowed in The Kingdom of GOD among its citizens.
Note:
Dating is a manifestation of self-gratification and self-indulgence. Until we get out of self, we are not ready for the Covenant relationship of Marriage from the Hand of GOD, or any other. You will know when your season for marriage will come: You will hear it from GOD with confirmation, you will be established, spiritually and naturally, the way GOD wants you to be, and you will not be about self, but you will be sold out to GOD. Why? You come last in your marriage. GOD comes first, then your spouse, and then you. However in dating you come first, then that person you date, and maybe GOD gets a false notable mention. You’ll know when it is time, for you will be long off The Throne and JESUS will be there. If you are a man, this Submission to JESUS as the Bride of CHRIST (Covenant partner with HIM) will qualify you to rule as head in your house over your GOD-Ordained wife and children. If you are a woman, it will mean you are qualified, and can be trusted, to submit to the headship of your GOD-Ordained husband, share his authority and rule by his side. This can not and does not happen when dating.
Final Note:
Dating is what we did in the world to solve the problem of companionship, the need for affirmation, affection, and attention that it is supposed to satisfy. You mean to say that now that we are saved we must do everything else according to The Kingdom of GOD’s Paradigm, but because GOD doesn’t have a way for us in this area we have to revert back to the world’s way of doing this, which is dating. Now that we are saved, GOD has got to have a better way to go about this than what we had in the world. I implore you to go for GOD’s Best, and don’t date, but wait on THE LORD, and HE will perform a wonderful thing in your life.
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